Speaking from a parents perspective usually we do try to teach our children right from wrong. They do not understand all the time why we forbid certain things until they are older but then they realize it was for their own good. A perfect example is how our heavenly Father tries to teach us. He gives us his word the Bible and sometimes we do not want to follow it but if only we did we would find out that He loves us more than anyone else possibly could and if we would just listen to him we would be so much happier.
It's For Your Own Good ...
by compound complex 12 Replies latest jw friends
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ex-nj-jw
As a mother of 2 adult sons and 1 almost adult - I continue to provide advise and guidance to them. I've found that if you push too hard one way or the other they will most definately push back in the opposite direction.
I may not always agree on the path they decide to take, but I offer my opinion then sit back and watch. Sometimes a bad decision is the most effective way to learn a lesson. We can't as parents expect our adult children to do things "our way", what worked for us may not work for them or they may need to just find out on their own what does or does not work.
Now if my adult child was a drug addict or alcoholic I would do whatever in my ability to help them get help. I would never enable them but I would be there for them with support in any way I could. When people are at their lowest is when they need our help and support the most.
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compound complex
Greetings:
Hortensia,
Chickpea,
lisavegas,
real one,
ex-nj-jw
Your input has been very helpful, as you've distinguished between necessary and helpful direction (for minor children, adult children with unalterable issues, those who look to a higher power) and advice (manipulation, coercion, intimidation, ad infinitum ...) that is unsolicited and unwanted.
I appreciate the time you've taken to offer your points of view.
CoCo