Would you rather have the truth, or your feelings spared?

Bumble Bee

If it was me, I'd rather have the truth up front. I went through an experience where someone didn't tell me the truth about a situation, thought that by not being totally honest, my feelings would be spared. Maybe at the time, they were, but afterwards when I found out the truth I was deeply hurt and confused.

I felt a double betrayal when I found out the truth from someone else. I made life altering decisions based on false information.

What would you do in a similar situation - lie and hope the person never finds out, or be upfront and honest, no matter how hard it might be?

BB

real one

The truth helps you to live a richer life without regrets.

Cellist

I prefer truth. Although it is very difficult to tell someone the truth when it's going to hurt them.

Cellist

serendipity

If someone asks me a question, I'm going to be diplomatically honest. I'll also add the comment "in my opinion" if appropriate, because my opinions are borne of my values and experiences and aren't gospel.

If I think someone is misunderstanding me, I'll try to address the situation.

In important matters, if someone appears to be taking a dangerous or unwise step, I'll volunteer my opinion on things, having the tough conversations. Or at least ask pointed questions.

Now, where I'm concerned:
If I ask the question, I want the truth stated as diplomatically as possible.

IF I don't ask the question, I don't want people blurting out whatever rude, critical thoughts that pop into their heads unless my life, health or reputation are on the line. And even then, I don't need the busybody admin assistant telling me that losing 30 pounds would extend my life. If I can't eat chocolate and have an occasional glass of wine, why would I want to live an extra 7 years. ;-)

ninja

I would like to know the truth....although a spoonful of aspartame helps the medicine go down

quietlyleaving

hmm thats a difficult one BB.

I'd prefer to be told the truth and allowed to decide about and how to cope, with my feelings.

DJK

The truth. I'm usually pretty good at telling whether I'm being lied to or not. If someone lies to me just to spare my feeings, I feel like I'm being treated like a child.

AWAKE&WATCHING

TRUTH ...period

About 6 months after my first divorce my ex and I decided to give it another go. Just hang out and go out and see if we thought we could work it out. BASTARD was seeing someone else the same time as me. telling me he still LOVED me for cryin' out loud. LYING ASSHOLE

It took me a month or so to figure it out and I went balistic. That was 18 years ago and he still tries to get me to give him the time of day which I will NEVER do.

Once a LYING CHEATING GAME PLAYER always a LYING CHEATING GAME PLAYER.

I HATE LIARS - especially the ones that break your heart and don't even blink an eye.

SPAZnik

Honesty delivered kindly.

Some people have a real knack for it. :)

free2think

I'd always want the truth no matter how difficult it is to hear.

Would you rather have the truth, or your feelings spared?

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