I'm pretty sure there gonna let my husband become a MS the next time around

cognac

They keep talking about it with him...

This is just getting better and better...

DJK

Have you given any thought to how you will deal with it? Possibly nothing will change for you both.

cognac

Have you given any thought to how you will deal with it? Possibly nothing will change for you both.

I told him I want to leave... Not sure how this is all going to play out. If he doesn't get appointed, he's gonna be pissed. He said to me that if he's not appointed, he's leaving the cong. which would be a great way to fade... I doubt they won't appoint them though... There's only one elder that seems to have it out for him... This elder has a way of really pissing off my husband... But, they have been talking about it so much with him that it really seems like he's going to be appointed... And the PO seems to be taking my husband under his wing...

Hope4Others

I'm surprised that he would consider even excepting this (MS) do the discussions you have been having (apostate stuff). It may fact tact on extra stress

for both of you and he may have to eventually step down if you actually fade. Seems more than its worth.

lol

hope

cognac

I'm surprised that he would consider even excepting this (MS) do the discussions you have been having (apostate stuff). It may fact tact on extra stress

Honestly, I don't think this has anything to do with a spiritual goal. I think this is about the fact that he's grown up in this cong. They are like family to him... I think he feels that he needs this to have there approval... It seems to be pride thing or something...

I hear all the time, "this persons an elder, this one's been an MS for 5 years, bla, bla, bla..."

flipper

COGNAC- I agree with Hope 4 Others - what makes your husband want to be a ministerial servant if he has all these doubts you had mentioned ? Does he just want to get appointed for appearance and prestige ? ( Like most do- in my humble opinion ) Or to be looked up to, or because of the family he is married into ?

If you really don't want your husband to be more involved with the organization I'd suggest doing something to save him from getting more involved. Does HE want to be more involved in the organization, or doesn't he ? It is a question only you and he knows. So, ponder your course carefully sis

reniaa

hmmm you seem in danger of making this a JW's or me issue, is that really fair? A person should be able to choose something for themselves, we can influence and discuss but should we demand them to do what we want, right down to their personal beliefs and faiths instead of what they want?

reniaa

BFD

If he doesn't get appointed, he's gonna be pissed. He said to me that if he's not appointed, he's leaving the cong.

Surely you can work that angel with a little theocratic strategy, no?

BFD

chickpea

A person should be able to choose something for themselves

truer words were never spoken...... unfortunately in the b0rg, making a decision as simple as changing one's mind unleashes a cascade of events that churn one's life into a battleground of emotional blackmail and manipulation

now if that principle existed, just as stated, in the b0rg, then this thread would not exist.....

this board would not exist

MissingLink

If the elders knew about your views or about the materials your husband has viewed - I doubt he would be appointed. He needs to have his family in line. They would at least be extra cautious about his specific beleifs before appointing him. I'm not saying you should sabotage it by "coming out" - that could go either way for you.

I'm pretty sure there gonna let my husband become a MS the next time around

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