by new boy 20 Replies latest jw experiences
Which was your family?
I wanted to write this thread after reading PEC's profile...Wow!!!
He was raised in a family were the men were cursed....if you had a penis you were in trouble.
That was true in my family too, my mother was sexually abused as a child...she hated men all men...so me and my father had no hope...being males.
In my exwife families the men were the chosen ones..The women were worthless.
What sex was favored in your family?
NB
after reading PEC's profile
Wow, someone read my long winded profile. Thanks, (not so) new boy.
Philip
I am kinda split...
In my Dad's (SB) family girls are great, boys while loved and appreciated for carrying on the family name are expected to do at least one really stupid thing that will live in infamy through-out the next 100years of family tales. ( My brother's....had a party cleaned up real good but forgot to take out the kitchen trash filled with alcohol containers...he was 15 at the time)
My mom's generally believes all children are a blessing. However she married a JW that hated females. So in my immediate household I was treated as worthless, only to be married off as soon as possible while my other brother could do no wrong (especially since all the wrongs were committed while hanging out with prominate ElderKids)
This sort of split also occured in my two main KHs growing up. The first loved kids, the Elder in charge of Kids encouraged us to go to Bethel for 2 years then pursue college degrees that could be a service to Bethel later in our lives. He was convinced that I was lawyer material and encouraged me to think critically and be bold without fear. The next KH hate girls as much as my then stepfather. Only prospects for a girl in that KH, marriage at 18.
My mother was a closet feminist and bashed men. Despite that, she favored my only brother, and still does to this day.
My dad was a traditionalist and felt women should be stay at home wives and mothers, though he agreed women could perform nearly any job. He favored my brother too.
I think this is an important issue...
Because of the JWs thinking...that women are less then a men.
The "brothers" encouraged my exwife to leave me because I wasn't a "spiritual head"....
Since women are so weak minded, that if the don't have someone over them that is "strong spiritualy" then they are screwed.
It seems to be a religion that attracts weak or broken women....The whole "the head of the woman is the man" thing.
New Boy
I think you have a real good point about the perceived strength.
If I had a dime for everytime an Elder attempted to put me 'in my place' and then make snide remarks when I gave a kick-ass biblical or pub rebuttal.......
I think this religion also draws men who have inferiority complexes. It empowers and validates them because of their Y chromosome. Unearned entitlement is used as a taste of power and position to recruit males to a pack mentality.
The only one I had from time to time was my Dad, he was my mother and dad. I didn't get to see he much.
PEC -----the women wore the pants in his Family.
But in our Family --PEC Wears the pants,.
I remember my mom really hated men and so did her mom. She would tell my dad and brother that she had seen things bigger than their penises hanging on a Xmas tree. But my dad ruled the house with an iron fist.
momz
My mother said she always liked raising girls better than boys. She had two of each. But the reality was that she always thought the girls were sluttly and let the boys date whoever they wanted.
hard to say. I have sisters, no boys in the family, but as girls we got the message we were worthless. My mother liked men better than women, I think, but hated men too, she was capable of holding too disparate beliefs at the same time.
