I had a chance to mention to my mom that I heard the bookstudy was no more

by sosad 16 Replies latest jw friends

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  sosad

  and she told me that was absolutly not the case. she laughed and said that would never happen - that they needed it and that where ever i had gotten my infomation from was absolutly wrong and that I could tell them so. she then told me that the Public talk had been shortened - and I said that I had heard that it was 15 minutes shorter - the fact that I knew that kinda threw her.

  But the book study would never go. she was so confident and sure - so full of zeal that I just said that it didn't make sense to me either - after all it was so nice to get together in small groups, and such a great way to visit at someones home.

  I wonder what she will do when the announcment is read - will she call me or let it go - and what will i say if she asks me how i knew? It was all I could do not to mention that I also knew about the "secret" watchtower
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  AWAKE&WATCHING

  LOL - I asked my soon to be ex-husband when the new arrangement started, of course knowing he knew nothing of it. He was puzzled, said he hadn't heard anything about it. Then he saw my Christmas tree (yes - it's still up, I can't help myself...it's just so damn pretty) and mumble d that Christmas has been over for awhile. It was nice of him to drop off some of my things.
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  zugzwang

  I also mentioned this to my mom today as well. (So it had better be true or else all of us "apostates" are gonna look like we don't know what we are talking about.) She asked me how I could know this before it was announced. I told her that we "apostates" know more about what the organization is doing than most Witnesses do. I also said that there will be more major changes coming up in the future. Almost immediately she went into lockdown mode. She said she didn't want to know anything more and started in on the "the end is so close, you need to come back. . . " I really don't try anymore to reach her with the truth about "the truth." She's been in since she was 18 and is now in here late 60's. And her husband, my father, died as a result of the blood ban, so in her mind there is no way the "truth" can't be true. Makes me sad. Although, she refuses to stop speaking to her children. My sister has been disfellowshipped for years and she still speaks with her. I'm not yet df'd nor da'd but it's only a matter of time. So maybe there is hope for her someday. zugz
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  sosad

  i think peole like our mom's know in their hearts- but feel there is nothing they can do, after so may years and years and years and years...
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  Anti-Christ

  i think peole like our mom's know in their hearts- but feel there is nothing they can do, after so may years and years and years and years...

  I agree, my mother in-law broke down once when she mixed her antidepressant pills with to much alcohol, she was really upset at the org. because they change so many things since she was young. The next day she did not remember much of what she said..
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  zugzwang

  Sadly, I think my mom has no idea. I think she really believes it is the truth. If she is anything like me, (and she is, she's my mom after all) if she ever entertained the idea in her head that the Society wasn't "the truth" and then found some evidence that reinforced that idea, I think she would have a nervous breakdown, just like I did when the cognitive dissonance first started fading away. But I don't think she has ever even considered the possibility. For her it isn't even an option.
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  AWAKE&WATCHING

  Anti-C- sounds like your mum-in-law mixed her own truth serum.
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  moonpie

  I told my sister who is still a JW and she said and I quote "The only news that I know of is that tomorrow (Sunday) there will be a letter read worldwide from Bethel. If it has to do with the bookstudy getting cancelled, it only shows that they are preparing us for when persecution comes our way and this is another indicator that the end is very near. Remember, the Bible says that no-one knows the date of the end but God so the Society will not be making any more end of the world predictions except that it's right around the corner. Don't believe everything you read. The Bible says that in the end Apostates will rise and infiltrate Jehovahs organization and try to bring down as many people as possible with questions that doubt Jehovah. The only truth and security I can give you is to read the Bible for yourself and see what Jehovah tells you directly. Don't let anyone rear you from the truth." That is her word for word what she said. I'm so freaking confused right now.
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  cognizant dissident

  i think peole like our mom's know in their hearts- but feel there is nothing they can do, after so may years and years and years and years...

  In business, this is called "sunk cost syndrome". When you invest so much time and money in an endeavor, even when it is shown to be a losing proposition, many business people will continue on doing what they have always done. They have put so much into it, that they feel they HAVE to keep going, to try and recoup their initial investment. The sad thing is they invariable just continue to lose. The wisest thing in business is to know when to cut your losses and get out. I think the same holds true for religion. Cog
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  cognizant dissident

  i think peole like our mom's know in their hearts- but feel there is nothing they can do, after so may years and years and years and years...

  In business, this is called "sunk cost syndrome". When you invest so much time and money in an endeavor, even when it is shown to be a losing proposition, many business people will continue on doing what they have always done. They have put so much into it, that they feel they HAVE to keep going, to try and recoup their initial investment. The sad thing is they invariable just continue to lose. The wisest thing in business is to know when to cut your losses and get out. I think the same holds true for religion. Cog