As A Former JW, Do You Feel You Should "Apologize" For Past Actions? (page 3)

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When the 1995 generation change came out I was still active and "zealous" and everything. My first impulse was to go back to all those doors I had been to where someone had allowed me to do the song and dance about "Jesus said we don't know the day and the hour, but we DO know the GENERATION". 1914 plus 70 or 80 years means it's SOON. I felt I had distorted Jesus' words and had twisted scriptures, and it really bothered me. After awhile I figured no one had really listened anyway, probably paid no attention or realized I was nuts. If I went back to apologize they would likely wonder who is this moron, and it would just be an further annoyance to them.

mouthy

If someone believes they must apologize for their actions while in the cult, then I recommend that they go back from house to house and let each person that was contacted know that they screwed up.

Will you push me in my wheel chair Min???So many to apologize to. I cant walk it. cant hold the phone for that many calls. But the Borg already told them I am screwed up so they did it for me.

minimus

I'm coming, Mouthy. (Hmmm, that doesn't sound right)

freetosee

Minimus, ...good questions!

when I faded I first quit meeting attendance and gave up all responsibilities (MS, pioneer), but since I had a few bible studies (lovely people) I continued meeting with them. I didn't feel like I was serving jehovah, but rather the elders. FS was the only thing which made me fell like I was close to god. (After the military US and GB left we had Search Territories, mine had many international student homes -the students know how to ask good questions and do real research. It was great discussing with them!)
Sooner or later I just couldn't encourage them towards the "truth" and I had to tell them the reasons why I had to stop our discussions. That actually helped me a lot, it gave me a clearer picture and good conscience also towards myself. It was a good experience, because they were very understanding and I had a chance to speak to someone which was not possible with my family and other jws.

Every time I think of this I feel very bad. I would love to be able to apologise to d'fed ones I did not greet or speak to. Especially a young girl I grow up with, who went through hell (little did I know at that time). My family visited her family and she stood outside the house to see us (was kicked out with 17y) we all walked pass her without even looking at her. She bursted out crying, and her brother went to huge her. The whole thing was so terrible and unfair.
I hope she is fine and has a good life now. If ever I meet her, there is so much I would love to tell her.

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minimus

I regret the past but I won't apologize for my upbringing as a Jehovah's Witness. "It is what it is". But I certainly have learned not to repeat the mistakes.

freetosee

Well, I was born in too. Though indoctrinated, right or wrong, I still have a strong urge to apologise. To me it is the right thing to do. Not knowing I have wronged someone, it was still hurtful and I think she deserves to be told that it was bad and very wrong...

dobbie

Well i have apologised to my closest family (non jws) for being a jw all those yrs and missingout on all the celebrations, not participating in things etc, i feel bad about alot of things but its only now that i have moved on from it all and have got over it all,shunning etc that i have said sorry and spoken about it all, mainly to my mum. Some of it was unforgivable and i can't change it so i have to carry on and make the best of my time and be there for others to try and feel i am making some amends however small.

mouthy

I'm coming, Mouthy. (Hmmm, that doesn't sound right) I wish I could speak all those I made JWs half are dead. The rest shun me.

JK666

What is your opinion, minimus? I would share mine, after you put up yours.

Until then, you don't deserve an answer.

Questions are cheap, answers are priceless.

JK

LouBelle

I just feel that my attitude wasn't right, in that I judged people if they didn't listen to what I had to say. I didn't have that right!.

As A Former JW, Do You Feel You Should "Apologize" For Past Actions?

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