My brother invites me to his graduation...may open up can of worms...(Sigh) (page 2)

loosie

Go for your brother. And remember you are better than those people that shun you. They will look stupid in front of your brother not you. If you dont' go they will says that you didn't care enough to attend. Even though the reason would be that you didn't want to deal with their attitude.

have to deal with my aunt not to mention the cold stare downs she gives.

Stare right back at her. You have nothing to be ashamed of. When she sees that you caught her staring at you she stop. It will make her feel uncomfortable ( and she should feel that way)

llbh

Are you proud of your Bro? yeah thought so show him what you think of him and love him, this is a once in a lifetime event do not miss it you will regret it I went to my son's graduation i was immensely proud of him - still am.

Deal with the rest of the family by being gracious and let them behave as they will. Your motive is good and most importantly your brother wants you there, he has worked hard to get there show him what you think of him

Regards david

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Bring_the_Light

This is my best motherly advice.
Suck it up and go.This means alot to your brother. Smile at everyone, even if they say something less than nice. Be the gracious, loving daughter. You be the one to treat them kindly and be the better person. If they start on Bible study, meetings, etc., just thank them for their concern.

Motherly and masculine genious advice agree on this one. Never bend, never hide, never feel shame. Shame, hiding and bending to these social distortions is their rules not ours (yours). Carry the flag of rationality proud.

joelbear69

I would view this as an opportunity to plants some seeds of hope in your
brother, encouraging him to go to college, seek freedom, think for himself.

Confront the silliness of shunning head on. It is truly the silliest thing
ever created.

FreedomFrog

You all have made very good points. The graduation time is around the time I have my children. I can ask my ex to take them for me for that day but he's been so busy with his job that I hate to ask him to take them that day...especially since I just asked him to take Sierra while Zach and I go camping.

Though, if I take them, I'm sure they (especially my mom) will say something to my son and upset him...he's only 9 years old. For example, they haven't seen him with long hair and I just KNOW my mom will make a stupid comment about it.

I have until the 25th to prepare myself for the "reunion". I am very proud of my brother. My mom is the one that said he was certified to be in heating and air....I haven't gotten this word from him yet and I know my mom has embellished things before. For example, she made it sound like my sister that's working for Wendy's as if she "owned" that particular Wendy's and I found out this wasn't the case. In fact, my sister makes just above min. wages.

Believe me, my ex (AlmostAtheist) knows exactly how she can stretch the truth. That's why I made the comment "whatever that means" about my brother being "certified".

Bring_the_Light

How long was Jesus' (err. Jesuses, Jesusis, Jesus's) hair?

Plant a New World Translation Bible on your kid and tell him to ask for a hair length standard from the scriptures. I don't know which verse, but I'm pretty sure the standard was stated in "cubits".

FreedomFrog

How long was Jesus' (err. Jesuses, Jesusis, Jesus's) hair?
Plant a New World Translation Bible on your kid and tell him to ask for a hair length standard from the scriptures. I don't know which verse, but I'm pretty sure the standard was stated in "cubits".

Ah yeah, but this is a congregation that wouldn't allow a person to become a "non baptized publisher" because he had a beard, and this was years ago when beards were more popular... Ummm, didn't Jesus have a beard himself? Hmmm....well, whatever I guess. I will more than likely "suck it up" and go but I also know that my mom knows how to push certain buttons, especially if they are directed at my kids or about my kids...I just hope I can keep my mouth shut and not make any negative remarks.

scotsman

Go, be breezy and nice, smiles all round, press flesh - like a hybrid politician/JW and engage no one in meaningful conversation. Leave early.

My brother invites me to his graduation...may open up can of worms...(Sigh)

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