Adultery of a JW (page 3)

Vinny

I would suggest calling the local Kingdom Hall, and then request to speak to the Presiding Overseer.

Tell him you would like to arrange a meeting between you and your husband, with a few elders from her congregation about this incident involving whatever the person's name is.

With two witnesses to back up this claim, even if she denies it, the elders can then take action against this scumbag.

If your husband refuses to get involved, then you will want to find some kind of corroborating evidence to support your claims. Phone bills, voice messages written statement by husband etc.

Without any additional evidence, and with only your word against her word, they will not take action unless she has a prior history of such behavior and would likely leave it in Jehovah's hands.

But with more than one witness, you can almost guaranty she will face severe consequences.

And in JW land she could be cut off by all including friends and family until fully repentant and having to wait a fairly long time.

Hope it works out.

vinny

Hortensia

so your husband cheated on you with a JW, confessed, now it's all over, but she keeps trying to contact him? He needs to start hanging up the phone when she calls. And I notice you have talked with her more than once - you are keeping the situation alive. If you really want to break off contact with people, you don't talk with them. Quit stirring the pot.

I think the best response is "my name is Wes - I ain't in this mess."

OK folks, feel free to kick my ass. I'm being mean to people again.

hurt by JW

just by chance....do you have her address?........he he.....da ninja......whooooooooooooooooosh

yes I do. I have found everything i believe there is out there about this person. would you please pm me and tell me why you want it? I'm still unsure about what to do. Maybe if i post it and other JW's write her and tell her what she did was wrong that might make her understand??? I don't know, I'm lost at this point and tonight I'm going to answer each post and try to get most of the story out there to your guys so you can give me replies with knowing more. I was going to send her a letter but i was afraid her son might read it if he was to get the mail first from curiosity. Like i said I don't want to hurt a child.

hurt by JW

I would like to use my real first name, it is Shelly.

My church would say ignore and pray for her. I have and its not working!!!
You might want a back up plan then.
I am not sure what jurisdiction you are in but here in the UK restraining orders can and do work.
Have you approached the local elders his church ?
Regards
David

I live in Arkansas of the United States. Here a restraining order usually only helps after someone is hurt. They rarely give them out for something like this. actually i believe they would laugh at me. Now this is not the way it is all over the US but it is the way it works around here. Besides a restraining order might go both ways, then it would stop me from what will be the inevitable which i will explain in response to another reply.

CountryGuy

With two witnesses to back up this claim, even if she denies it, the elders can then take action against this scumbag.

If your husband refuses to get involved, then you will want to find some kind of corroborating evidence to support your claims. Phone bills, voice messages written statement by husband etc.

Without any additional evidence, and with only your word against her word, they will not take action unless she has a prior history of such behavior and would likely leave it in Jehovah's hands.

Hurt, Vinny is completely right. If you both talk to her Body of Elders, it would be worth your time. If it's just you, then it would be your word (a non-witness) against hers (a witness). They're going to believe her. Especially the elders here in Arkansas, if they can avoid addressing an issue, they will.

I hope it all turns out well for you and your husband. And, I hope this psycho chick finds someone else to torture.

CountryGuy

hurt by JW

I fell asleep...sorry. I will finish all my replies tomorrow night.

hurt by JW

I also wanted to say that before i go for the night that on most of the reply's i have not gave you the whole story. that was what i was attempting to do by responding to each. tomorrow night things will be totally different in your minds. just for the "stiring" the pot. when i talked to her was back when i first found out, last year. the last time i talked to her was when she was calling my husbands phone about 2 weeks ago while we were still on the road. so i'm not stiring the pot , she is and another women who is nuts as well. and i do have balls. i just can't catch her, she runs from me.

If anyone is from Paragould Arkansas area please let me know as you may know her.

hurt by JW

Sorry one more thing, would having all conversations with her on tape be a plus? as i do. i have my husband confessing last year and i have him totally confessing with every detail a few weeks ago. with her i have about the same, except she says she did nothing wrong after telling and admitting to everything? I'll explain more tomorrow.

hurt by JW

Don't worry about posting back. I won't be back here again. I will stop asking other people about things i already know in my heart. Just because you deleted those post about someone telling me I'm not strong enough to kick her butt and because so i don't deserve my husband, then the "stirring the pot" crap, doesn't mean crap. I saw them and now I know how the JW religion is. I will stick to mine. I will not get revenge on her just because I can't catch the biotch to kick her butt! That is the inevitable i was speaking of in my earlier post. She will get it kicked! She has and continues to keep my life upside down. Me and my husband do not need counseling! we worked it all out! He is not hiding anything from me and after the way she became obsessive toward him, threatened him, and so much more he would never even speak to her again like i said before, it was an accident he answered the phone. and he still under estimated me when he not only allowed me to tape his confession the first time, even tho he didn't see it I showed him the moment he was done. then he watched me tape everyone in the future. you would have to know more about what this women done to understand that and since I'm not coming back to you people for advice you won't know what I'm talking about. then he is to stupid to know I'm also taping the second by second confession he gave me even knowing i set her up over and over last year when i taped every phone convo the biotch and i had. I will not ever let anyone run over me again and i came to this site to ask about your religion and i found myself defending myself again. I have been ripped apart by a site called Topix and I will never allow anyone to make me feel like i was or am the one doing the wrong. I have stayed true to myself and my religion. now after i do come face to face with her someday when she will slip up and forget who's husband she screwed i will beat the crap out of her! that will happen if it takes the rest of my life! then i will have something to confess and ask forgiveness for but for now i don't! my revenge will be kicking her A$$ as the other women so eloquently put it. I hold all cards in this situation with all the taping i have done. and before you start yelling that is illegal then look up the law, i live in Arkansas and as long as i didn't cross state line's then only one of the people being tapped has to know and that can be the one doing the taping, so it is legal and will stand up in a court of law or for what ever else i might want to use it for. maybe a web site with all the audio on it? humm thanks guys as i would not have thought about that one if i had not came here! I am considering , and laugh if you want but look it up first, suing for alienation of affection. Small claims is topped at $5000 but i only want a check for $20 a week till its paid. that is to remind her every time she writes it out what she did. She can live her double life, but these are 3 small towns , close together and if she can walk into her church and think no one knows what she has did and is doing then she is just as crazy as i said she was. but i am crazier in the point NO ONE MESSES WITH MY FAMILY! Now a restraining order could interfere with the butt kicking so no I'm not doing that. She keeps it up and the kicking will just be worse.
There is someone on here who messaged me and i told that person quite alot. so who ever it is knows more than you all do. I won't make a mistake again.
So far well to all you JW's and all the advice and all the criticism! I swear i believe i am the only person that does not tear other people down when they have did nothing........yet! maybe all of you who wrote that crap needs to take a good look at you and your God and ask "what would Jesus do?"..........see i don't even know if you believe in Jesus or not. Maybe that is why she is the way she is, she has nothing to live for but married men! Thank you all for you so called help! It was just another wonderful experience to add to my many. And to the women i told the stuff to i don't care if you share it with "these" people. I'm sure it went through private messaging already anyways.
bye,
Shelly

hurt by JW

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