From Your Experience: Did Elder's Families Get Away With More Than Others?

by minimus 36 Replies latest jw friends

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  OnTheWayOut

  Did Elder's Families Get Away With More Than Others?

  Is a frog's butt watertight?
  Do bears deficate in the woods?
  Is this a rhetorical question?

  I remember this P.O. and his best friend, another elder.
  They had lots of children, some teen and some approaching teen.
  They would use the rules and stretch them beyond recognition with
  their own children.

  If one of their kids got into trouble, the two of them became an
  investigation committee, and talked with the child. The two of them
  determined that while a sin may have occurred, it was minor and
  no JC needed to be formed. The elders manual does allow for some
  of that, but that is not what it means.

  They never informed the Body of Elders that they even investigated
  something. I had to find this out many moons later from one of the
  kids.
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  IP_SEC

  Not from my exp... but from what I read my congo was the exception to the rule.
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  OnTheWayOut

  Even after we were married we were counseled that we were holding hands too much at the congregation.

  Lo-ru-hamah, there are always exceptions. There are some elders who swing the
  paddle of punishment harder and swifter. So sorry to hear your story.

  The above quote just make me say, "Whaaaaaaaaaaaat? Totally ridiculous."
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  White Dove

  Elders' kids were the popular ones. You should have seen them in school. Popular there, too. Yes, they got away with a lot more that we did.
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  Mysterious

  This wasn't really true in our cong. The elder's kids did get in judicial trouble and the ms kids I knew had huge pressures to behave so their dub daddies could be made elders. They werent always angels but quite often thye parents truly didn't know what was going on.
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  minimus

  There were elders who used that old trick of "dealing" with something somewhat by the book but not in the spirit of it. I think that in the 70s, especially, there were many maverick elders doing things that either they were told by a CO that was acceptable or some that simply tried to keep things contained to a certain two or three elders....the rest of the BOE had no idea about anything. Usually the Service Committee pulled these antics.
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  WTWizard

  As often, they were held to stricter standards so they could set the example.