Misleading advice at the Hall.

edmond dantes

Words of wisdom at the kingdom hall went something like " don't marry for looks because looks fade." What I want to know is if the person you married turns out to be a crabby old miserable so and so how do you cope with ugly personality plus ugly looks.I mean if you marry a looker at least you have enjoyed some vision of delight, if you get stuck with both you are in a double bind.

mouthy

Edmond my love! your naughty, I am & always was ugly..My hubby was very good looking , he had to marry me. but we were together for nearly 43 years, Sure he kept on looking at the pretty ones ,but he knew a real friend> ME ! by staying.....

oompa

Or you could be married to a total babe with the body of an 18 year old gymnast that never ages....and is a total fun killer....and whose only dream is to knock on doors and wait on Geehoba.......oompa

edmond dantes

Mouthy you are not in the least bit unatractive looking and I'm sure you are a great life time companion.I think the secret is to maintain a good sense of humour with plenty of give and take.

edmond dantes

Oompa,

Women are real spoil sports sometimes! I think there should be a Watchtower special edition on spicing up relationships and could be entitled "Sisters do it for Jehovah." that might do the trick.

mouthy

Mouthy you are not in the least bit unatractive looking and I'm sure you are a great life time companion.Ithink the secret is to maintain a good sense of humour with plenty of give and take.

Oh "aint"that nice!!!! I will send the fiver I paid you to write that

StAnn

I think my ex-husband would tell you the best misleading marriage advice he heard in a Sunday talk: "You single brothers, if there's an older sister that you really admire, you marry any one of her daughters that'll have you."

My mom and my ex- liked each other. I look just like my mom. But I'm nothing like her~personality and outlook-wise, I'm almost a carbon copy of my dad, except for the gender part! Boy, was my ex- unpleasantly surprised!

For me, the fantastic advice was to marry someone based upon their spiritual qualities, so I married a MS. Of course, once I decided to leave the JWs, the only thing I had in common with my hubby was completely gone.

Warlock

Marry whoever you have that "animal" feeling for, no matter what he or she, looks like.

Warlock

White Dove

Nice, Warlock! It takes time to get to that point.

WTWizard

While it is true that looks fade, it usually happens gradually. However, a nasty disposition (being a tyrant, for instance) never does. If the person you marry is always trying to use a heavy hand in controling things, it chokes off the other partner. Stagnation always sets in, and it's only a matter of time before adultery or abuse occurs (and this adultery is never upfront with the partner).

In fact, looks is important to a degree. Compatibility is also important. And so is the willingness for both partners to do their fair share--without being abusive or tyrannical about it. The whole object is that it should be enjoyable--and looks can help to a big degree in making it enjoyable. Having the partner a pioneer does not help--and neither does being a hounder, coming from a pioneer or hounder family, or a history of going to Beth Hell. Nor do these things increase the likelihood of compatibility or ward off stagnation (if anything, they bring on stagnation).

As for fading looks, it cannot be totally stopped (I would not expect someone that is 98 to look 18). However, it can be slowed down. I have found that certain vitamins can slow the process down, as can alpha lipoic acid. Staying physically active helps a lot. Limiting fast "food", cutting down bad stress (good stress, such as the holidays and other eagerly anticipated events, actually helps), and getting enough sleep also help slow down the fading of looks. Notably, these are more difficult to next to impossible while trying to pioneer or be a hounder.

Misleading advice at the Hall.

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