Do you ever get tired of fighting?

by Celtic 18 Replies latest jw friends

  • GinnyTosken
    GinnyTosken

    Englishman,

    I just noticed that you recently attained Emperor status. Dare I hope that you have put on your new clothes and will soon post a picture of yourself in your new attire?

    Ginny Dormant

  • Budda Belly
    Budda Belly

    Eating, Beer, Drugs, and sex somtimes..

  • GinnyTosken
    GinnyTosken

    Celtic,

    Prisca has a good point--what are you fighting?

    For me, it was helpful to drop the battle mentality in thinking about JW issues. I am not fighting against the Society, nor am I fighting for any ex-JW cause. This focus is a bit small, in my opinion. Jehovah's Witnesses are only one of many groups who harm people with religious coercion and control. In my own small way, I hope to make a difference by promoting education and critical thinking skills.

    Sometimes when I read this board, I feel weary and empty. In that frame of mind, I seem able to only see endless quarreling and bickering. Depending on what you read, this board can be emotionally draining.

    When I feel that way, I know it's time to take a break and focus on something else for awhile. Do whatever feeds your "spirit." I like to slip into the calmer, gently-paced, mannerly world of Jane Austen's 19th century England. Read cookbooks, experiment, and invite friends over for dinner. Go wine tasting. Draw. Write. Listen to music.

    When I feel I am renewed enough to read even argumentative posts with a calm smile of compassion, I slip quietly back into my seat at the computer.

    Of course, I also enjoy heated debates. As long as I'm able to smile while I compose a reply, I know all is well. When I begin to irritably obsess about it, I know I'm taking this much too seriously.

    I hope you find a technique to help you keep your balance, Celtic.

    Ginny

  • Joyzabel
    Joyzabel

    Ginny, WOW, what nice thoughts you put down. I agree with the serenity you try to maintain.
    HS, how inspiring. (Larc likes your feet)
    Celtic, maybe it would help you to narrow down what encouragement you are expecting from others and give it to yourself. j2bf

  • Missie Eff
    Missie Eff

    I agree with Ginny, in the end we have to feed our children and carry on with life.

    Peace to you Mark.

  • zerubberballz
    zerubberballz

    I've only had one fight on the internet and that was with some pastie eating pirate of penzance right here on simons board. I had the good sence to apologise and he had the wisdom to accept ;)

    I don't believe in real fighting unless backed into a corner by some blood lusting maniac or in going to the aid of someone in distress.

    Play fighting is an entirely different matter and i have used it as a way of getting a point across, defending less articulate posters being mauled by agressive typists and a door to some great friendships.

    Fighting is a young mans game. Personally, I see no winners or losers here, just people exchanging thoughts.

    uncletaoist

    PS: "WHACK" in fun = good, "WHACK" in anger = very bad.

  • Celtic
    Celtic

    When, often I ask questions, I ask from the community point of view, not just nessarsarily for my own sake, its like trying to find input, that from such questions, others might benefit from, who might not think of asking a particular question, or something which is holding them back, does that make sense?

    JW stuff, I got over pretty much quite a while back, its through work that I still maintain other, ongoing projects, for example the sculptured acoustic water gardens I've been working upon. Despite having done lots since leaving the Witnesses, there is still so much I wish to accomplish and wish to keep my overall energy entirely focussed.

    peace

    celtic

  • Prisca
    Prisca

    Glad to hear it Celtic. We need to move on with our lives to the best extent possible, otherwise we can get stuck in a victim-mentality.

    I like that you try to bring up questions that others may be wondering, but are too shy to ask. I sometimes like to play the devil's advocate in discussions here - a way of trying to get others to see issues from a different point of view.

  • Sirona
    Sirona

    I like fighting

    Sirona

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