My son is moving in with his girlfriend............Consequences????

by nomoreguilt 13 Replies latest social family

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  nomoreguilt

  This is a follow-up of my thread of June 18th. My son, 30, inactive jw, divorced. His girlfriend, non jw, much younger than him, really cute really sweet.

  So, they came over friday evening. My wife, not his mother, and I can tell that he has overcome his hard feelings about me, my divorce from his mother etc. He was genuinely sincere in his words and actions towards us, I could tell. As we were going out to the patio iasked him if his girlfriend was a jw, he said no, I said GOOD. I sensed that he wasn't quite sure how to take my comment, but we left it at that.

  As the evening progressed, we enjoyed each other's company, he had relaxed and his girlfriend really warmed up to my wife. So, I think she's only maybe 22?? She shares an aprtment with a girlfriend . That's when my son said that they were going to be moving into an aprtment of THEIR own with-in the month. I my wife and I both said"NICE" non-jw judgementalism .

  Now, here's the sticky part, not that that act alone isn't sticky already. You see, I KNOW his MOTHER.......She's an active, hard core dub. This is the woman that told the elders when she learned that I was smoking, while we were married. She got ME DF"D!!!! She swore that she HAD to do it...had to keep clean with jehovah.....All that TRUE JW crap.

  So, my ex has met this young lady, approves of her as a nice girl and suitable for her son. WELL!!! Just what the HELL is she going to do when she finds out that they are going to be LIVING together???Do you think she's NARC on him? He hasn't gone to meetings in a couple of years , that I know of, although he may have gone to an assembly or the DC here in the not so past past.

  Hey, I'm not going to be the one to burst her bubble, I figure she'll find out from my older son or some one else. HOWEVER!!! I am waiting to see just what transpires in this matter. I am hoping that she doesn't narc on him. She's always worried about losing him to this and to that. If she doesn't go to the elders I am going to nail her on her high and mighty stand she took when we were married.

  If she DOES go to the elders, well. I'll see what happens after that............

  NMG
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  nomoreguilt

  BTT
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  FlyingHighNow

  Your son is 30. He knows the consequences. Live in the moment and enjoy your son's relaxed attitude towards you.
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  *summer*

  My son, 30, inactive jw, divorced.

  That says it all. He can take care of himself:-)

  Just make sure he knows you are there for him...no matter what~
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  nomoreguilt

  Ya know something, I am enjoying this new relationship with him. But, I somehow get this feeling that maybe he doesn't think that anything will happen to him??I have no intention of bringing it up with him. He's a big boy and it's not for dad to tell him how to live his life, even according to jw standards. None of my business either way. I would love for him to see the hypocracy of jwism, maybe he does.

  I do get this deep down feeling that maybe, just maybe, he has the romantic notion of bringing this gal INTO you....know....what.....

  I've seen it all done before, haven't you? Maybe to please his mother?? I'm going to call him tomorrow and tell him hopw much we enjoyed his visit and how much we enjoyed his girl friend. Then, maybe I cangget a feel for what's going on in his head.

  NMG
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  Gayle

  Maybe she learned something the hard way (not that she may ever apologize to you) that turning you in to the elders didn't help you or change you, and eventually she paid a price, a broken marriage. If she does the same thing about your son, then she will lose another relationship and no doubt, your son will move on as he deserves to have a life.
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  Bring_the_Light

  Regular access to sex on exchange for separation from Jehovah's channel. Getting fxxxed is a win/win in this case. :oP
  
  Tell your boy to bust a nut err. Break a leg (good luck) from Bring_the_Light
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  nomoreguilt

  Ya, it is my one true desire that he have a GREAT life and gets out from under the spell of the tower and his mother. I think that he may fear his mother, once she finds out the life that he is really pursuing. She knows that he lives a wordly life, of course, she places all of the blame on me. He learned how to have an affair on his wife from me, porn, drinking, bars, loose women, the World Trade Center was my fault, kennedy's assasination............you get the picture.
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  BFD

  She's always worried about losing him to this and to that. If she doesn't go to the elders I am going to nail her on her high and mighty stand she took when we were married.

  I don't know about your marital history with her but, I think she already lost you because of her "religion". She might be stupid enough to make the same mistake with her son. I don't know.

  As for your son, he's already inactive maybe he doesn't give a shit what they'll do. I hope he don't lose his mom to the WT$ but, it won't be the first time.

  BFD
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  nomoreguilt

  BFD.....I had this feeling from him when I asked whether she was a jw that perhaps he bristled when I made the comment " GOOD". I can't read his mind but there was just something there in his tone that makes me wonder about him and maybe he still has sympathy for the dubs.

  I reallly need to have a one on one with him, but I don't want to rock his boat too much because he is bi-polar. As I said, I am not going to be the one to rock his boat. It's not my business. I have been trying to stay away from the subject of the jw's with both my sons . But, the time may come when the younger one will be in a circumstance that will open him up to some plain hard facts about the jw's.

  NMG