Oompa,
I wasn't in it as long as you but I was born into it. I hear you and I understand. It is very emotional. And in some ways it still is for me. Not that I have any regrets at all, NO WAY. It's just that it caused a lot of emotional hurt in my family. And I have 3 aunts, one uncle and numerous cousins that are still in. Our relationships with them have been strained for a very long time. It is very sad. There is no way around it.
Thanks for being here, Oompa.