thanx for all your inputs! llbh, thanx for your advice, but it's definitely easier said then done. unfortunately my situation is more like bythesea's, having friends and family all "very much in it", making leaving all the more difficult.
i always somewhat suspect ones who are in the large, well-known witness families.. statistically the odds are higher (ie. what are the odds of everyone in a 20 ppl extended family all believing the exact same thing) and additionally they have more family to lose for leaving too.. and often they're a result of several generations of dubs so it sort of becomes a "heritage" issue too... (remember that article "remembering your christian heritage")