Hi all. I am a sister that kind of "fell away" from the organization. I felt that I wasn't accepted by my brothers and sisters (long, long story). Whatever I did I wasn't "perfect" enough. So, I though enough is enough, I have to do what makes me happy so I just stopped going to meetings. I say 'hi' to an odd brother or sister now and then but I don't go to meetings nor do I desire to. I am not an apostate but I just don't feel religious. In a way, I felt kind of pressured to get baptized.
Anyway, it has been about two years since I have been to a meeting. I used to go to the Rockland Congregation in Campbell River, B.C. Canada. The last time I went I was sat with the brother I was having an affair with. No one knew not even his wife who was sitting on the other side of him. I had met this old friend of mine named [M] who was disfellowshipped at the time. I consoled him while he vented about his situation about the truth and the brothers. He began to show an interest in me, His wife [T], picked up on the interest because she became quite hostile towards me-[M] told me she called me "Skank". I wasn't interested in him because he was a married brother and I really wasn't attracted to him at all. We went away together and he got me really drunk and he started to touch me and we ended up having sex.
He wasn't that great in bed but that is beside the point -we were having an affair! It became exciting, finding places to have sex, at the beach, the lake and in his bed he shared with [T]. She didn't know about it but I think she sensed something was going on seeing as [M] and I were sharing the basement suite together. They were on the outs anyway, he asked her for a divorce, they had separated. But then, the brothers got to thinking that he should be reinstated all the while not knowing what was going on. He would attend the meetings faithfully with his wife then he came back home and had sex with me. Talk about sinning everyday then repent on Sunday! Even though he had a bad attitude towards the truth, he wanted to get reinstated so he could talk with his friends again and have some say in the way his son was being raised. I guess he didn't think he could properly parent his child in the ways of the truth if he wasn't reinstated. So, he decided to throw me out (literally!-he physically assaulted me and the police were called) because it was getting too close for comfort, the brothers were on to him and so was his wife.
So my question is should the elders find out about the affair seeing as he was disfellowshipped at the time? I found out he was reinstated recently but if the brothers knew do you think he would have been? If there are any elders out there give me your advice. Would they just view our affair as something he did while he was disfellowshipped so it doesn't really matter? I think that everyone knows about us because when I go to town and run into a witness now they give me dirty looks and don't want to talk to me.
I haven't been told by anyone that I have been disfellowshipped but I am sure they are aware of the affair somehow. I personally don't care if they do disfellowship me as I said before at the beginning of this chat that I am not religious and I don't care to go to meetings so If no one wants to speak with me that is fine. I have a new somewhat normal everyday life outside of the Christian congregation. Should I go to the elders about this information? Please feel free to give your opinion/advice to this matter. Thank you