parenting a transgendered teen

by chickpea 31 Replies latest social family

  • chickpea
    chickpea

    deep breath here......

    my baby... nearly 15!... has disclosed in the last several months
    that, altho born to us a girl, he needs to be a boy... we have had
    enough heartbreak and issues concerning our kids
    in regards to sexu@l abuse, mental health crisis
    and other horrors, that even tho this is a HUGE issue....
    it is not devastating to us, like it might be to another family

    tomorrow, i take him to catch a plane at the closest airport
    some 2 hrs away.... he is going to boston to participate
    in a leadership training conference directed by GLSEN
    (gay/lesbian/straight education network) and my heart is trembling

    he will be among people who
    truly understand his issue
    for the very first time in his life

    i stood in mute witness to his telling me
    that since 5th grade he knew something
    wasnt like it was supposed to be....
    that he sat in terrified silence thru talks and presentations
    from the KH platforms and assembly stages
    telling him what a despised and despicable
    creature he was in the eyes of a god who
    would murder him for being who he is.....

    for the very FIRST time in his life
    he will be with people who already get it......

    and my heart is trembling

  • IP_SEC
    IP_SEC

    Be happy for your 'son' CP.

    He is not a heart ache. He "is".

  • SixofNine
    SixofNine

    Wow, what a house of horrors the KH must have been for him and his childhood self. I wish him, and you, all the best going forward.

  • Big Tex
    Big Tex

    Whoa, bless your heart chickpea. You're a good parent for standing by him. There's a lot of parents who wouldn't. This is true love, isn't it?

    I'm so sorry about the horrors of the past. Forgive me, I don't mean to intrude in something that is none of my business, but has he had professional help to deal with the abuse?

    All my hopes and all my prayers. And please give him a big manly chuck on the shoulder for me.

    Chris

  • Sparkplug
    Sparkplug

    Peace to you and yours. I know this has to be difficult.

  • Sparkplug
    Sparkplug

    Meant to add, that I have just watched and helped my good friend as her daughter came out of the closet. It is a lot easier that she has a family member there to support. You are a good mom. Excellent actually.

  • jwfacts
    jwfacts

    He is lucky to have such a supportive parent.

  • Quandary
    Quandary

    You are a terrific parent Chickpea!! You love your child unconditionally, exactly the way a parent should. The JWs view of proper parenting is warped, they have no concept of true unconditional love. Bravo to you! Wishing you and your family the very best as you stand behind your son's decision to live his life.

    Q

  • IP_SEC
    IP_SEC

    I just realize my post could be miscontrude.

    He is= He is what he is.

  • jamiebowers
    jamiebowers

    I watched the movie called, "A Girl Like Me". If you haven't watched it already, you may want to find it on video. It's only a small part, but it explains how this happens before birth.

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