There can be NOONE who has used their brain LESS... factually. (page 2)

Solace1998

utter fallacy....

if you havent used your brain, thats totally your fault, no offense. Being a witness, i used my brain more than any other time of my life, it was a completely stimulating experience mentally and intellectually. I have taken what i have learned from there (and i was a pioneer in college then, and am still in college now admittedly with more free time ;) ) and have applied it in my life to my benefit, even though being disfellowshipped.

maybe you bought into the whole housewife thing, but that isnt just a witness thing. I know plenty of witness wives that are hardworking, intelligent, and are conducting business...

Mickey mouse

utter fallacy....
if you havent used your brain, thats totally your fault, no offense. Being a witness, i used my brain more than any other time of my life, it was a completely stimulating experience mentally and intellectually. I have taken what i have learned from there (and i was a pioneer in college then, and am still in college now admittedly with more free time ;) ) and have applied it in my life to my benefit, even though being disfellowshipped.
maybe you bought into the whole housewife thing, but that isnt just a witness thing. I know plenty of witness wives that are hardworking, intelligent, and are conducting business...

Out of interest were you a born in or convert? In my experience people who were converted and used their brain prior to becoming a JW will continue to use their brain more than a born in.

I have observed the witness culture as one that likes to keep women reliant upon their men via the headship ethos. A lot I know would not know how to pay a bill. Many know nothing of politics/philosophy etc. Some do, but they are more likely to wind up here.

MissingLink

It's never too late to start. You need to allocate some time for yourself. What are you interrested in?

Solace - How long before you get reinstated? You'll be sure to use your full mental faculties understanding the latest new light. That is if you're under 6 years old, or a complete dumbass.

The Oracle

This isn't your destiny!

As has been said earlier... you choose your destiny. You choose every day.

Each day, choose to do something that helps you grow as a person.

With the shackles of the WT removed the sky is the limit.

Tryanny under any disguise is repressive, once its gone you can spread your wings and just see where you go.

The Oracle

WTWizard

It is going to get even worse. Every time they run a Waste of Paper Distribution Campaign, they go a whole month without thinking at all. It is just nonstop knocking on doors and saying "We are stopping by to leave you and your neighbors this waste of paper", and handing them the waste of paper (if the person is not home, they leave the waste of paper in the door). All day. Nothing else but going to doors and saying that simple line, repetitively.

If that is not disuse of the brain, I don't know what is.

New light for you

Thank you all...

And this really honestly wasn't a "pitty party".. in fact, it was a big realization for me. I came into the witnesses when i was a young teen with my mom and we were going thru the divorce. There are things that i got positive out of being in, yes. But overall, you NEVER have to make a choice or decision... "oh, what do I think about that? i dont know, let me look at some WT's and get back to you because i cant think for myself and am not allowed"

Anyway, this was positive. Yes, i need to find out what i like, what i could get into- college, reading reading... anyway, it just occured to me... you dont use it, you lose it! Yes, i could have taken more control of the household stuff, i did let it go, and i dont necessairly need to be in charge either, it was just part of the whole understanding that it was complete in every aspect it seemed. I think other at-home-moms could relate..,. it's a high burn-out job.

Thanks for all your input!

Solace1998

i find that totally the opposite of my experience.

"I have observed the witness culture as one that likes to keep women reliant upon their men via the headship ethos. A lot I know would not know how to pay a bill. Many know nothing of politics/philosophy etc. Some do, but they are more likely to wind up here."

the only wives i know of that fit this bill are old school (which non-witnesses are mostly the same anyway) or one person i know of was trying to espouse witness beliefs on her non-believing husband, and was overly subjective, imo.

otherwise, wow, i know plenty of independent women. They are mostly childless and pioneers, however. Dont know if theres something to that.

Solace1998

dude, is there a reason for this?

I am nowhere NEAR getting reinstated. Im living with a new girlfriend and not attending meetings.

But i know what i have experienced, and what is utter BS.

Get over it.

jaguarbass

So.... i'm thinking. I'm thinking cuz i was at my shrink's today... and i'm cleaning... those 2 things get my brain working and i was thinking....

I am (was) a JW (ex) who is a housewife, "at home mom". Could there POSSIBLY be ANYONE ELSE in the whole FRIGGIN WORLD who has ever used their brain LESS??? honestly... even that tribe they found in the amazon... they could hunt and catch their food. See, i dont even know where that is cuz i've NEVER HAD TO THINK!!!

Oh my gosh! What a realization!! I couldn't go to college, cuz we were "good"... and then your every thought and opinion was predetermined. Then also in my own life... I havn't written a check except for a few school pictures in 10 years. I wouldn't know how to pay a bill in this day and age, or how many there are or what they could be for. In fact, i dont even know what else there is to being alive than chasing around children who wont listen to me, and cleaning the house.AND THATS NOT CUTE! and it DOESN"T mean "oh she's got it good"(i'm not denying that it's nice to not have worries, but worries is not the issue). it means that I've never had to think .... Where do you even start?

This CANNOT be what life is about. But, i have NOT allowed my brain to function, practically, religiously, philosophcally, politically (?) but see, i dont even know what is out there TO ponder!!

Anyway... it's amazing what you can come up with while scrubbing toilets.... this CANT be my destiny.

Hello, I'll give you some things to ponder.

The grass is always greener on the other side.

Today is the first day of the rest of your life.

It's never to late to be what you always wanted to be.

Thoreau said in the book Walden Pond. "Most people lead lives of quiet desperation"

Join the club.

The world is at your fingertips. Randy California.

GentlyFeral

Solace1998,

if you havent used your brain, thats totally your fault, no offense. Being a witness, i used my brain more than any other time of my life, it was a completely stimulating experience

New light for you, I have to chime in a reluctant and tepidly muttered " amen ."

When I was a Witness, I found it intellectually stimulating for a while simply because it was the first time I'd ever encountered that sh*t. That lasted about ten years, but the delusion continued. And it was still the days when the WTBS was naive enough to cite sources, so I would happily read the books that were referred to; which is how I came to be one of the few Witnesses that read The Neck of the Giraffe, for instance. I called it "the bibliography trick."

But I still bought into all the cult bullshit. All the books I pulled at random from library shelves "because they just looked interesting" were either cookbooks or fiction. It took homeschooling to change that -- and I still avoided evolution.

(and i was a pioneer in college then,

New light already explained:

I couldn't go to college, cuz we were "good"

Don't tell me you don't know exactly what that means. And if your parents/elders/friends said college was ok, don't tell me you don't know exactly why the non-degreed exJWs on this board are jealous of you.

New Light for you,

Where do you even start?

You've gotten a lot of good advice here. I started with the "bibliography trick;" as you start reading nonfiction, raid the bibliography; read all the titles listed there that sound interesting. Don't be afraid to tackle a book that looks too hard - if you understand even 25% of it, you're ahead of the game.

You might even want to take some community college courses so you have some moral support while you get used to tougher brain-food.

And learn to balance a checkbook

gentlyferal

There can be NOONE who has used their brain LESS... factually.

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