LOUBELLE- O.K. You want information and honesty here- so here I go ! I don't speak for all men, just myself and what I've learned from my wife and previous relationships - so here goes !
1. Communication - We really enjoy communicating with you as an equal partner. We don't want to control you ; however we don't want to be controlled or mothered as well. Don't make an issue over small things - i.e. ( how we squeeze the damned toothpaste out of the tube ) . Life is stressful enough - don't sweat the small stuff ! That includes us as well being your guy. If you look for the good in us, we will return the compliment and look for the good in you and emphasize that constantly ! Men enjoy helping their women and we want to feel we can assist you, or open a door for you without feeling you don't need our help. If a man is never allowed to assist his lady with tasks, he feels a lack of self esteem and feels he can never be of any use to his lady ! We need to feel needed, just like you women ! We want to be wanted and desired as well ! We know you love us ; but we enjoy hearing the words just like you do ! And we will keep telling you also !
2. Sex- All of us really are NOT pigs only desiring our own orgasms and sexual pleasure ! Many of us take wonderful delight and pride in wanting to please our lady first and being able to give her pleasure ; and hold off for our orgasm later, after her, or have the ability to climax at the same exact time as her ! That is better still ! Some of us as men do understand that if our wives or girlfriends are NOT responsive - it could be of our own making - perhaps we as men are making sex seem too much like a duty or obligation ! Or we are not setting the right atmosphere or emotional mood conditions to have a fulfilling " interchange of encouragement " if you get my drift ! And by the way- we as men do enjoy " cuddling " as well after sex- we enjoy the close emotions as well that draw us close to our women ; and make them draw close to us too !
3. We as men want to be your equal. For some of those men coming out of a patriarchal JW religion - that may be a hard concept to swallow , but if we as men want to be in a " long term " relationship with a modern day lady , it's imperative to not demean any woman we are with or try to control them. Just because we were controlled by a " mind control cult " doesn't give us the lisence to control any female in a relationship ! We understand if you need space as a woman , and realize there may be rough times of the month for you ! Don't worry- many of us men enjoy cooking dinner for you anyway throughout the month! So we will help you shoulder burdens ; if you let us ! WE aren't mind readers though- we have to KEEP TALKING to understand one another. It is a big key ! For both man and woman ! So- hope this helps a bit ! Peace out, Mr. Flipper