I have been out for close to 8 or 9 years, and I have moved on with my life and things are going great. I am far better off then I should be, and I am happy with the direction of everything in my life! I am not there yet, but I will be eventually...
Though I am starting to find that this board can suck alot of time away from you, I am still staying afloat with everything!
I think the board, and others like it, is a great thing if you use it properly. It is like anything. Misuse, or abuse, something and it will probably abuse you back.
For me, I think it is interesting to see the various ways that many of us have moved on since alot of us at one point believed, or at least claimed we believed, the exact same thing. Plus, I am starting to enjoy reconnecting at least on some level with my old 'brothers and sisters' though mostly, I assume since I am new, I am just replying to other people as I have not established any 'board credibility' yet...I guess we will see what happens on that one!