Many of us have had our ups and downs in relationships. I think that goes without saying ! We have all been through the mill and back with perhaps getting with the wrong person - but not finding it out until a year or two down the road. Sometimes, it can become clear right away that things won't work between prospective partners - which is good as you don't put as much time into getting hurt !
That being said, from what I've noticed people tend to put more effort and emphasis in picking a career or employment and being choosy about that - than putting the time into meeting and getting to know what kind of person they would like to have a relationship with. So many people leave it up to random selection - not much thought - then they wonder down the road why they are getting burned !
I too, once was like that . But in time , with each relationship I learned more about what I would not put up with in a partner, and spent time researching what I really wanted in a partner. Which was mutual respect, similar interests, great chemistry, real unselfish love, someone who really gets me, communicates well and wants to spend her life with me. There is a lot more to it of course, but I feel lucky after all these years to finally have found it ! God knows , I paid my dues in bad relationships too! But remember, life can change on a dime ! So what have you ladies and men folk found in looking for someone that you really want to connect with ? What are you looking for in a partner ? Do you know ? As always- I look forward to hearing from you ! Should be interesting ! Take care, Peace out to all, Mr. Flipper