What happened at the recent DC?

by Allegory 15 Replies latest jw friends

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  Allegory

  Hi everyone, I'm new and angry right now. A little history. About 1974 I was studying and continued to study for about a year or two. I became an unbaptized publisher but when it became time to get baptized, I couldn't go through with it. The person I studied with was devastated. Throughout the years I would say that I continued to believe what the witnesses taught. Fast forward to 2002. A new witness came by and we hit it off. I "studied" not too enthusiastically, all this time. Mostly I was lonely and we would go out to lunch, etc. Well, I told her from the start that I didn't believe in the faithful and discreet slave and during this time she was never able to change my mind. I never could buy that the JWs were the direct connection with Jehovah. Ridiculous! Anyway, ever since the DC a couple of weeks ago, she completely ignores me. No calls. I dropped some pictures off for her and she said "I'll call you." Never happened. I'm really hurt. She used to always say "what are friends for?" Well, I guess that answer is "good for nothing." Because she never had any money, I would buy things for her. I feel used although it was of my own making.

  So the question--what was said at the convention about people who are not making progress?

  Thanks for listening. I enjoy this site and have learned a lot. I think she knew was reading an "apostate" site.
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  yknot

  You are not worthy.......you have been dropped.....it happens when a non- JW study is clearly not going to make progress..

  She is probably focusing on using God's force to guide her to greener ministry pastures.......

  Really it nothing personal......

  But you are

  So tell us more about you.....
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  Gopher

  It seems her friendship was never personal, either. It was based on the thought that you might drink the kool-aid someday. She thought she could overcome your initial resistance.

  I remember as a JW that the district conventions were especially strong boosts of false confidence for the JW's, and I remember feeling quite special and set apart from the world for a few days after those boasting sessions. After a while that wears off and you forget most if not all of what was said there.
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  Evidently

  It's what makes relationships in that organization always feel so icky........CONDITIONAL.......conditional on you behaving as they say you should behave, and for you that means progressing towards baptism. If you aren't moving fast enough then you are dropped like a hot potato, (sarcasm on) feels good don't it (sarcasm off). She was just being nice because you were a potential victim, and when you turned out not to be, see ya!!!!!

  Can you imagine sitting in a KH looking around and realizing that every single person in there will turn on you if you miss 2 or 3 meetings in a row, or turn in 0 hours of door to door book sales time for a month.

  Word of the day CONDITIONAL!!!!!
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  MissingLink

  She never considered you a friend, but a product.
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  Eyes Open

  As you probably know, JW's befriend people in the hope that they will think what nice people they are and end up becoming one themselves. She probably had your interests in mind, but when one is in a cult one does not always act naturally. If the friendship was non-romantic, count yourself lucky, grieve the loss and make sure you have enough friends who aren't in a high control group.
  
  Good to have you here.
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  changeling

  Welcome!

  I have no idea why you were treated badly.

  changeling :)
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  ninja

  hey al gore......I saw your film...an inconvenient truth....it was rubbish
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  ninja

  sorry allegory...I have spiritual dyslexia.....welcome to the board
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  Quandry

  Welcome, Allegory.

  It does seem that you've been dumped. But couldn't she at least have the decency to explain why she can no longer associate with you?

  I think I would call her and demand an explantion for her rude behavior. Put her on the spot. "So at Armageddon I will die and the birds will pick out my eyeballs?"

  I remember when a person that I used to study with started avoiding me, never being at home at the set time. I finally got the hint, and wrote her a short note and left it in her door asking her to call me if she wanted to resume her study, and if not, see ya. After all, I couldn't count time just being her friend, and I needed to count time during the day. The witnesses are kinda stuck-they just don't have much time to have regular people friends, as they must keep busy in field service. But at least I did write a note, I didn't just avoid the lady.