sorry to hear about that Chukky - you might find some useful stuff here:
http://knol.google.com/k/paul-morrison/why-jehovahs-witnesses-shun-people/290ks3g12r97j/3#
my FIL was recently on the end of similar counsel and ended up getting the CO involved after writing him a letter.
the BOE got ticked of by the CO and told to apologize.
PM me if you want a copy of the letter FIL sent