JoelBear, how r u dude?
Thanks for sharing your questions and asking for advice. All the replies here are great. I think you would know best if seeking the local elders help is a good idea. Do you know what the local elders are like? Are there any that can look beyond the normal and can show sympathy. Many here have had bad experiences with elders within J.W.'s so I can understand the direction of their advice. I on the otherhand have ,for some reason or another, had very cool and reasonable elders to deal with even in my slow departure from the Witness fold. They are still there for me.
Sometimes we ask questions to see if anybody out there cares and sometimes to find truth, sometimes both. I hope you find both.
I was an elder and I can give you an idea of the answers if you would like. Let me know. If not you could use the C.D. watchtower. Of course this would tell you the J.W. official stand on these issues. And if thats what you are looking for then perhaps you can find them there.
Keep on asking questions Joel, often they are more important than the Answer. There is truth in the quest for truth.
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