On this site and elsewhere I have heard the expressions when hurt by words.... "grow up.. grow a thick skin "
Well it all seems easy enough to say, but we all have areas of high sensitivity.. physical, mental, emotional, social standing, education and race. It is easy to find humor in things
in which we exceed or excel ourselves, but to be very protective and guarded in those
areas of sensitivity perceive as a fault or failure prejudice in our own life
To grow up or get over it is to say we still think like a child.. but do we not all still have
that small child hidden deep within ? I venture to say we all seek the comfort and protection we felt (hopely ) a child. What we apply to a child ..would it not be beneficial to apply to all ? Take note of this article of child bullying.....
Sticks and Stones May Break My Bones...
But Words Can Hurt Forever
Do you remember being a child and hearing the
phrase "sticks and stones may break my bones,
but words will never hurt me?" While it’s true that
words can’t break a child’s bones, they can break a
child’s spirit. If hurtful, negative messages are
repeated again and again, they become destructive
to children and turn into a type of emotional abuse
known as "verbal abuse."
Verbal abuse differs from other forms of child abuse
because the consequences of it are not always
visible on the outside, since it hurts children on the
inside. Verbal abuse damages children by adversely
affecting their sense of self-worth, security and ability
to feel loved. Verbal abuse, a form of emotional
abuse, is considered to be the most prevalent type of
abuse and tends to occur in conjunction with other
varieties of abuse. The effects of emotional abuse,
including verbal abuse, are extensive and can last a
lifetime .http://www.preventchildabusewi.org/pub/wint02.pdf
Sticks and stones may break my bones (but words will never hurt me).
something that you say which means that people cannot hurt you with bad things they say or write about you. Criticism has never bothered me
Stop and think before you speak.
Think aboutwhat you say and how what you say may affect
your child.(anyone )
This post was inspired by a recent failure on my part to fully "think before you write
!"
I can not retract words once spoken but nevertheless vow to apply the quote below
Acknowledge that you failed, draw your lessons from it, and use it to your advantage to make sure it never happens again.
- Michael Johnson
There are no mistakes, save one: the failure to learn from a mistake.
- Robert Fripp
Caliber .........