It's like having ten kids and mistreating them while they grow up till you end up kicking out 7 of them out. Then you sit at the dinner table one day and notice there's only three people sitting there. You've made there lives miserable and dull by making nothing but rules and punishments but you tell the childrens aid " Well they just had a bad attitude." When it's you, that has the bad attitude and needs to be reformed.
This is what has happened to my family.
There are nine in my family, myself. my wife, seven children.
Now there are only three who are JWs , my wife and two daughters.
Only recently a daughter who rejected being a JW , asked her mother can't she see what the Watchtower has done to the family.
The mothers reply was that is wasn't the WT fault but that the rest of use had "rejected Jehovah."
It never enters her head to ask WHY the rest of us have "rejected Jehovah" , she would find that actually we reject the Watchtower .
But of course to a JW that is the same thing.