Did You Feel That No One Really Liked You?

minimus

The "Brotherhood" is supposed to be all about love. But did you feel loved or even liked??

purplesofa

yes I did, very much so.

thats what makes leaving so much harder for me.

purps

undercover

Good question if you really ponder for a bit.

I used to think I was when I was in, but looking back on it, with the exception of a few people, I was not loved, or even liked, by the majority of the JWs that I knew.

We were all thrown together to serve a higher purpose...to sell magazines and try to convert others to the same cult. We were told that only we had true love, so not knowing any bettter we thought we were all loved. Spend some time outside of it and you realize that you really weren't.

And what's worse, for those of us raised in it anyway...we can have a hard time learning how to love people (or at least express it) now that we're on the outside. I like a lot of people, but love is a hard concept for me to express to anyone that I'm not legally required to.

snowbird

I'm with Purps.

I was well-liked, even loved by some, save for a few jealous elders' wives.

I still like and love some of the ones I left behind.

Sylvia

BurnTheShips

I did not feel loved in my final congregation, and I was there for about 10 years. I always felt like an outsider. I never made any close JW friendships past my early 20s. Well, actually, there was one cometo think about it. But still.

yknot

It is a topsy turvy world.....

My 1st KH---- I was a 'golden child

My 2nd KH (current attending)--- Hated isn't a strong enough description, but it is easing some (only 1/3 actually believe I am demoned possessed, fer reals yall)

All KHs I have visited or shortly attended while out in CA...... I was a loved, spiritual paradise .... proof that if you donate enough $$$$$$$ to the WTS you can believe and behave however you want and WTS elite still visit.

LongHairGal

Only a few people liked me. I was drawn to the religion because I thought they were just bible students who had no clergy class. After a while I realized they had all these titles which suffice as a clergy class and some people thought and acted like they were somehow better than others. I, being a person who is not a brown-nose, didn't give anybody any special respect. I treated everybody the same because I thought this was "Christianity" and assumed everybody was equal. Silly me.

I also ran into problems because I am outspoken and work for a living. Surprise, surprise. They have real issues about women. I came in as an adult in my 20s and did not follow in the footsteps of other single women. I found some of them annoying, stupid and hopelessly sheltered. I dated when I was 'in the world' . I wasn't a desperado and didn't see any brothers who were to my taste so I stayed single. I was baffled at these sisters who just grabbed anybody because they were horrified to be single.

I also found out somewhere along the line that I had no real camaraderie with most of the married women there. Many of them don't have any regard for single women and some view them as 'having no problems' and try to target them to do favors. I got wise to this and even refused some invitations when I realized I was only wanted as a chauffeur for those who had no transportation or that the person hosting the gathering was looking for people to do favors. They figure if they are serving a meal or some snacks that will make it easier for some to say 'yes'. Needless to say, this didn't work on me.

LHG

White Dove

No, not at all. Apparently, I wasn't interesting enough or I was marked because I got a divorce and was raising two kids on my own. Nuclear families seemed to be favored in the congs that I was in. I was very much ignored for anything beyond a hello and goodbye. I felt no love in any cong. I was in.

yknot

White Dove..... HUGS

You are a majority, those nuclear families are just the 'window dressing' the WTS puts in front.

And a large percentage of those 'perfect JW' families are very dysfuntional.....

Finally-Free

They didn't like me. They tolerated me because I could control the sound system without producing a lot of feedback or blasting a kingdom song in the middle of a prayer.

Did You Feel That No One Really Liked You?

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