When my JW hubby found out he had cancer the laison committee was right there...NO BLOOD!..Well we had some forms sent to us.... from another congregation... as ours didn't have any. It was the forms you fill out to give the Drs and hospitals with what you want as your last wishes concerning life support and what you can and won't take to prolong your life.
On the form he named me as his caregiver..I was to make any decisions if he wasn't able. I told him I couldn't promise I wouldn't let him have blood..he still wanted me to be the one. He could have picked his sister or Mom who are both JW's and would have stood by his decision to not have blood but he didn't. He choose me. Sometimes I think he would have taken anything if it would have made him live. Even blood. He didn't want to die.
I am so sorry you lost your Mom and her husband is without his wife ...but as far as the dress code goes..please don't use your Mom's memorial to make a statement..honor her and do what would have made her proud (Short of rejoining)
Snoozy.......
ps..Here in St Louis and in some other states they have Bloodless surgery hospitals..I'm surprised th JW's aren't checking that out...I am always wondering why the JW's don't check out all possibilities when faced with the blood issue..it's like they just curl up and accept their fate..