You know your marriage is over when...

by mtsgrad 38 Replies latest jw friends

  • cognac
    cognac

    I'm pretty much over it Mts. Karma's a biatch so it will all come back around.

    Do you both have kids together? Have you thought about seeing a therapist? Talking about it helps a lot. Feel free to talk as much as you would like. We are all here to listen...

  • oompa
    oompa

    .....you don't make love for 7 days/weeks/months/years...........take your pick........sorry, hope you are better............oompa

  • mtsgrad
    mtsgrad

    oompa

    I was trying to keep that a secret!

    mtsgrad

  • Newborn
    Newborn

    1. your husband isolates you from friends and family - not even your parents can come and visit and stay over
    2. don't let you use the car (not even in service or to meetings)- which you are, btw, paying for...
    3. doesn't allow you to listen to the music you like at home and not watch TV as you want
    4. doesn't allow you to eat in the living room in front of TV
    5. i.e doesn't allow you to be yourself
    6. doesn't work (isn't that in itself a scriptual reason for divorce?)
    7. sleeps all day and watches movies and play TV-games all night
    8. treats you like a child-tells you to wash your hands EVERY time you comes home (he suffers from bacteria fobia among other things)
    9. never thinks you are enough or does enough
    10. takes you for granted
    11. says he never should have married you in the first place
    12. no sex life
    13. don't treat you with respect in front of others
    14. makes you feel stupid and in-attractive
    15. in-active as JW for many many years - the ironi of it is that since I left him he's never been so active, which of course is understandable since he'd only had me (another scriptual reason for divorce?)
    16. etc etc, the list can go on and on........

    Not everything was bad all the time. He was definately the man of my dreams at one point. That's what makes it so sad. At least I didn't give up in the first place. I endured for 12yrs!! I was a very good and loyal christian wife as you can understand:-) If I'm not going to heaven????

    Anyone who has a good idea what to do with your wedding pics? I think I'll keep them in a box somewhere as a good memory after all.

    I've escaped "prison" healthy and now I'm free and it's his loss.

    Dear mtsgrad, I'm so sorry to hear what happened to you. You deserve much better. Never settle for less. I won't!

    Love/Newborn

  • Robdar
    Robdar

    There is no point in posting when I knew my marriage was over because it still upsets me think how cruel a spouse can be. Suffice to say, when it's over it's over. Get out of it now. Nothing but heartache awaits you until you do.

    It is dangerous to sleep with the enemy.

  • Robdar
    Robdar
    Anyone who has a good idea what to do with your wedding pics? I think I'll keep them in a box somewhere as a good memory after all.

    I thought I'd keep my pics and did so for a while. Recently I burned them all because in the end, it is as if the marriage never really happened. I have my name back, I have the property that I brought into the marriage and kept only a little of the shared property. In reality there was not marriage, I just wasted 14 years of my life.

    I burned those suckers and I finally do not have to worry about stumbling across his mug and bumming myself out. Piss on him.

  • Quirky1
    Quirky1
    wife lets you pack your own case as you are rushed to accident and emergency.

    WTF, wheres the love?

    Get out now.

  • I quit!
    I quit!

    At least you guys had the sense to get out or are getting out. I've always felt you have to put up with enough crap when you leave the house in the morning. You shouldn't have to put with it each night when you get home. I hope things work out better for all of you

  • sammielee24
    sammielee24

    Hope you are feeling better.

    I've known people in your situation - more than a few that hoped every day that their spouse would just die - accidently - so they could be free. In their head - they never did anything, but they would daydream about it because they couldn't reason that divorce was allowable and that death offered up the only freedom to move on. I think the marriage is over when you want the other person to expire - ....

    sammieswife.

  • Big Tex
    Big Tex
    wife lets you pack your own case as you are rushed to accident and emergency.

    WTF, wheres the love?

    Where is just basic common human decency?

    Your wife is either heartless or a nutter. Or both.

    I hope you find a way out of this "marriage" soon. Your body is talking to you. Please listen.

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