R&R...
I am very sorry for your loss...cancer is always bad.. worse when it happens so fast.... and so young I didnt catch if you said how old the DF child was, but I can tell you that the elders had no right to impose any of those conditions on him. If anything good comes of it, it was to push that kid completely away from the cult. Still, at the time, how heartless...absolutely revolting behavior.
heartless.... I wonder ...how many of us did the same thing when we were good little dubbies? I know I kept up appearances in public (esp as an elder..since I didnt want to deal with fools) but tried to be kind behind the elder's backs to DF people when I was out of the sight of elders and their spies......so hypocritical on my part in retrospect...I was so much part of the cult. However, at a funeral, I did offer condolences to a DF person...I figured it was the kind thing to do...(and of course..it wasnt all altruism on my part... it was my hope then that such action would help them come back...blech..always some WT-crap in the back of my mind then)
The sad thing is that my JW mom would probably want a KH funeral talk (infomercial). She moved to an area that she did not grow up in or live until last year. Her friends in that area are very limited and almost exclusively dub.... my stepdad is not a JW and believes it is a cult. I am hoping that mom lives a long long time...but eventually I will have to deal with it.
Since my mom apparently has no spine, she wont insist her husband tell me where their will is (along with end of life/funeral arrangements info) or if there is even such a thing. I dont care if they leave me a dime... I just dont want to go through the hassle (the way we did when my dub dad died..he had no will...no instructions.... nothing paid for... and his nonJW family insisted on a casket showing... but at my moms expense.).. if I have it my way, there will be a non KH memorial service...no KH memorial talk...but anyone who knew her could come if they wanted... no WT infomercial... and a cremation and scattering of ashes somewhere meaningful. If mom doesnt make her wishes clear, thats what is going to happen.
However, if my mom makes it clear she wants a KH memorial WT infomercial, I will tell those f*ck*ng elders that they are to trim their funeral talk outline WT-sales pitch down to one or two scriptures of comfort....and nice things to say about my mom...no preaching, nothing about coming to meetings. If they wont do it (or if stepdad overrules and allows), then I will not go into a KH. I will be at the house for my stepdad and brothers (all nonJWs). I wont endure one more minute in a KH listening to that rubbish...I wouldnt be able to hold my tongue..and the last thing I would want to do is prove to those idiots that "apostates are crazy" or disrespect my mom. ***sigh**** breathe deep**** sigh***
I am glad I am out of that. Now we can comfort whomever the heck we want.
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