Loving provision? HA! What don't they call it what it is....intimidation and coercion? Reminds me of the letter my cousin (a CO out in the Midwest at the time) sent to my mother concerning her final stay in a nursing home after a devastating stroke. He wasn't particularly concerned about her, but rather was concerned that she might not be able to witness as much, and he asked if perhaps she could ask me to help her (of course I had been inactive for years at that point, and good little Dub cousin couldn't speak to me). Oh, yes, it took him only a year and a half to respond to my initial letter informing him that Mom had had the stroke and I didn't know how long she would be alive. He never sent a card....never called to inquire about her....never went to see her....and his "loving" letter arrived two months after her death.