If I were you, I would not attend a JC meeting no matter what, I refused to go to my JC hearings I wasn't going to allow three men decide if I was sorry or not and that was between me and God and I didn't care what they thought. They sent me two letters via my ex husband I guess they figured I was going to continue living with him,but no way no how. My son delivered the last one to me, the elders were to cheap to send me a registered letter letting me know that I was being disfellowshipped, I was announced just two wks after I left the organization
They didn't waste any time in hanging me, they were so eager to trap me, but in the end I won because I wasn't going to their crazy judgement tribunal. I only allow my heavenly Father who is kind loving and merciful and pardons transgression and makes our sins though crimson or scarlet as white as snow if we are truly sorry. I was. But they weren't going to find that out. God is my judge . Not the WTBTS. and its hob goblins.
While they disfellowshipped me they never did anything to warn the congregation about that pedophile who was in their mist. And the lives he destroyed and the disgrace he caused his family and God. He is a cold calculating man and is the oldest bro in the congo. and if I had my way I would have shouted it out so loud that others in the KH with children would know who lurks in their pathway. Don't get me wrong, I still feel for many a good witness who were my friends but you know what those friends are almost all out of the organization and that just blows me away.
Please friend you are in no way obligated to attend a single meeting with them. Unless they are false accusations then yes I would go and proclaim my innocence but if I had done wrong I would leave up to God to be my judge not the elders. No way no how.
Orangefatcat