What if?

Tammie

I was not exactly sure where to post. But here I go.
I am listening to music that was popular when I was in high school. And bringing back memories of when I was a teen, and in my early 20's. I was thinking back to the good times I did have. It seem like the fun began for me after I graduated from high school. Any way I got to thinking what if my life had been different. And the question I pose for everyone.
If you could go back in time. Not as the age you are now, but back to the age you was at the time of your youth. With the only difference would be you would be able to keep the what you know now, it would go back with you also. What would you do different?
If I could start over again, I probley try to make contact with the man that I married. And tell him to go on with his dreams. Yea he would have been in love with some one else (he was engaged once before). But I am very sure I could have changed his mind on her. She was short, blond and dummpy. I've seen her breifly, and she is not that good looking of a person. If you was wondering, she was not a JW, and still is not. Before I got married, I had the perfect every thing. I was one of those curvy types of ladies. Boy do I wish to have that back. I'm sure every one wishes they had the figgure of their youth. I had very long, red hair, that would just reflect the sun. My husband wanted to be and was accepted to be trained to be an airforce piolet. That was what he wanted to be. But his folks talked him out of it. I would have went to school, as it is I am planning on doing that in the next couple of years. Oh yes, I would have NOT gotten baptised as a JW.

larc

Tammie,

I have asked myself the "What if" questions many times over my life time. (I am now retired) I have concluded that doing so is useful if you can use your what if questions to figure out what you want to do tomorrow, next week and next year to make your life better.
Can the process help you figure out your strengths, weaknesses, interests, and dreams? Can you then, develope a plan to help make your life more enjoyable? However, if you dwell on the what ifs all the time, all it does is make you damned depressed, so I only use this kind of thinking in moderation.

refiners fire

Why miss Tammie you can post damn near anythin you want anywhere you want on this site.Dont worry about it.
As for your idea, guess I spent a lot of years wondering that same thing, what if I could go back. I would get an education, probably at university and I would take out all those pretty girls I was too scared to ask. Thats about all..

logical

Id go back into my mums ovary and come out a month earlier.

thewiz

4 things

1. To have never been born

2. I would have gotten the education I was destined for. Becoming a foremost leading heart surgeon. I worshipped DeBakey, Cooley, Bernard. That stuff came to me effortlessly, at that time.

But now with so much negativism.... A dream becomes the whole motivation for life. Remove that dream and that life, those abilities, are gone. Perhaps latently they exist, but who cares.

3. To wipe from my memory or to have never gotten involved with the love of my life. Not a day has passed that the torture, of not being with her, doesn't affect me. It's been 17 long years since I last kissed her. I hope she's having a wonderful life.

4. Don't let anyone CRUSH your dream. That's what this lesson has taught me to teach my children. That is, if I didn't get my wish in number 1, above. So here I am real life. I still have a chance, because Number 4 is worth ALL the 1-3, Repeats.

I'm a downer, ain't I?

Why am I confiding this?

more2C

Ahhh...to dream the impossible dream....

I wouldn't have to change much. I wish I had the knowledge and self confidence I have today that I didn't have in the past growing up as a teenager. I still wish I had those looks I had in the past. (Although, I do take good care of myself) I wish I could have erased all of my hospital visits, but then I would have never received all the support and well wishes to eventually be healthy today.

I think we can all learn from the past to carry on with the future.

more2C

rhett

1. Tell the elders to go f**k themselves during my many counseling sessions with them.
2. Never go out in service.
3. Been a whole lot nicer to to some of the really great people who weren't in a cult who awere nice to me.

I don't need to fight
To prove I'm right
I don't need to be forgiven.

ted_and_jackie

I dont know why your confiding this.
But I sure enjoyed reading it :-)
"17 long years since I kissed her"
What a romantic you are!!!!!!

You never remarried?

Jackie

Billygoat

What would I change? I don't know if I would. Although some of my experiences we pretty horrifying, they have made me a better, stronger, more loving person. Do I have regrets? Yeah...

I regret not being more forceful about my desire for extra-curricular stuff during school. I'm still upset that I was never allowed into cheerleading or sports or other clubs.

I regret having been baptized.

I regret not getting my degree.

I'm just afraid if I went back (like I could! ) and changed stuff, the outcome wouldn't be as good today as it is. I really do love my life!

Andi

thewiz

I never married her. I only kissed her and shared my dreams with her. She left me for another. Regardless I think of her everyday. I hope she is happy.

If I had to describe her looks, it would be most like Christy Turlington. But Christy Turlington, has those signature lips.

I married another. I have ONLY "been" with ONE person, my wife. As soon as I get my head outta my ass I'll treat her like the treasue she really is.

Some have said my wife looks like Ashley Judd. I think she looks more like Jodie Applegate, former host the weekend ed. of the Today show.

I'm like Ralph Cramdon of the Honeymooners (Jackie Gleason). a person with a big heart but fumbling on knowing how to use it.

I joke a lot but my heart is full of pain.

What if?

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