Hi and welcome.
I don't post much on this board anymore, but I do dip in and out to read anything interesting.
Your story really touched me - my parents and brother have not talked to me for the seven years since I was disfellowshipped. The emtional blackmail does hurt every day as you say, but it now does not bother me so much.
The fact that my parents are now quite old and may well need my help soon due to health problems etc does worry me but other than that I am very very happy.
Your rise, fall and rise again is more dramatic than most, but I am delighted to read of the steps you took to overcome the dark days and how happy you are now.
Thanks for sharing the story - it will be an inspiration to others that no matter what happens, there is a very bright light at the end of the tunnel.
SAB