Blondie, oh, I thought you meant a further change since that change. My brother DA'd before that, back in the mid-80's.
StAnn
Have you ever personally known anyone who DA him/herself?
by lavendar 25 Replies latest jw friends
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african GB Member
How many changes are we gonna have?
It seems never-ending....
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chickpea
just one kid.... late teens
he was a hellion,
boozing, stealinghis pioneer mother
and elder ste-father
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suchafool
When I was first studing the husband of the woman studing with me did. He was considered one of the annointed and it shocked the whole cong. He is always in the paper for his public stunts and opinions.
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passwordprotected
I knew of two. I didn't speak to them while I was still a JW.
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Midget-Sasquatch
This guy (maybe 8 years my younger) was a recent convert but still rather rough and liked his beer. A friend of his did alot of researching on the internet and started feeding him all the info about contradictions, failed predictions etc. and he started opening up to me and asking me stuff to gage who to believe. Naturally I loved to show him that most of his "apostate" info was correct but I had to pretend and play up part that I was suffering cognitive dissonance.
He shortly DA'ed himself and actually called me and wanted to talk to me the night he was going to meet w the elders. After he DA'ed we still met up about 2 more times and he was trying to help "free" me. Gotta love the guy but I've still got to keep appearances of being "in the fold".
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mkr32208
Sure, I knew several people. Sometimes I knew the reason sometimes I found out later many I never knew... None of them were friends so I never talked to them afterwards. One da'ed after a nasty child abuse scandle I wish now I had talked to her... The others? Eh who cares...
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jaguarbass
My mother, brother and sister all DA'd themselves.
They said they did it because it wasnt the truth.
Myself, I just stopped going to meetings and can go to family get togethers and am basically
in good standing.
They cant go to family get togethers and are basically pariahs.
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noni1974
I did. Before the new announcement. I was announced as Disassociated almost 11 years ago. I never knew anyone who had done it before. I just knew I had to get out and I saw no other way to do it because up to that point I had followed the watchtower rules and led a clean life. No sex, No smoking, No drugs, No fun, No nothing. I wasn't a candidate for DF.
I tried talking to my mother about it before hand. I told her I didn't want to be a JW anymore and I didn't want to go to meetings. She ratted me out to the elders so I had no choice but to write the letter. My letter was 2 lines long. I didn't feel the need to explain my actions to them. They called and tried to talk to me but I refused to talk to them at all. They announced me at the next service meeting.
I am shunned by my family although they do at times feel the need to bring up going back. My aunt was preaching to me one time in a hospital as my mother was waiting to be admitted to be put in a nursing home. My little sister told her to stop. It wasn't proper for my aunt to talk to me about such things. My sister defended me. I talk to my sister from time to time. I talk to my aunts from time to time. I talk to my mother and my father all the time . My parents don't shun me.
I was a 4th generation JW and the first one to leave in a DA. I've had several member of my family DF ed but they always go back.
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parakeet
While a JW, did you ever know anyone who disassociated?
Yes, way back in the mid '70s, an elder tried to blindside the KH by starting to give his "talk," then quickly changed the subject to why he was leaving the JWs and why the WTS was nothing more than a printer of lies. He didn't get past the first few minutes. Two other elders got up and almost charged the platform with the very clear intention of "escorting" him out of the hall. He saw them coming, stepped down, and walked out of the door before they got to him. One of the most interesting and exciting meetings I ever attended!
We found out shortly afterward that he DAd because he wanted to grow a mustache and the other elders disapproved.
And if so, did you ever talk to that person afterwards to find out WHY they disassociated?
Yes, several years after I faded, I ran into him at a grocery store. He said hello and revealed that he was now a BA Christian, and that he "knew Christ loved me." He kept assuring me of that as I nervously backed toward the store's exit. I don't know which was the more obnoxious -- his being an dub elder or being a BA.
Creepy.