by betweenworlds 12 Replies latest jw experiences
Does anyone know what the Watchtower's stance is on marrying a person who has been divorced on grounds of spousal abandonment? The person who was divorced is not a JW, and the other person is inactive, but baptised and is currently going to meetings. If they were to marry would any action be taken against the baptised person. Any help would be appreciated.
BW
Who abandoned who?
This person who is an inactive-ish witness is dating a man who's wife abandoned him and left the coutry, and he divorced her. This inactive witness who has recently started to reattend meeings is afraid that the elders are going to tell her she can't marry this man because his divorce wasn't based on reasons of fornication, but abandonment.
Thanks
The elder would definetely df you if you merry since you are not free accprding to the bible or the rules of the watchtower.
You could stop going to the meetings and marry him and forget the elders.
marry in haste and repent at leisure. :o)
Yeh it would be classed as adultery.
Unless the abandoned person last partner had committed adultery first or dies. You would probally get Df'd.
Sad, really i know peeps who left there wives and refuse to say if its ok for them to get married leaving them in limbo for the rest of theres lives.
Even if u leave someone because of violence ur not free to remarry... stupid really.
oh geez, that's what I was afraid of :(
thx for the replies all. I'll pass on the info to her. I have no idea why people let their lives be controlled by these people :S
regards
bw
Yeh it sucks sorry about that. On a positive its a good opportunity for two people to break free and support each other.Much better than doing it on your own.
Death and infidelity are the only things that can break a marriage officially for the watchtowerites.
I suggest, take a hit, get married spend a few years being dis fellowshipped. Get reinstated. In no time you'll be back (12-16 months i reckon) plus u might learn to like it! :)
Or you could just do what your told and wait... 50 years of loneliness is nothing i guess.
I think there is a way that they can remarry without df'ed. If the ex partner is untraceable i was under the impression that it can be assumed they have committed adultery if many years have passed.
My ex got remarried with no letter from me or any admitting of adultery and never got d'fed. She just basically convinced the elders that i had.
Paul
Yeh there is that, with time it can be forgotton. Probally very rarely... I think if you tell your ex. There "free to remarry" its assumed you have done something. So if your willing to lie... you could say your ex has told me "im free" as long as they dont contest that of course.
But in some cases the partners may remain as jw's which means it cant be assumed they lead immoral lives.
Ideally, if your ex has left being a jw. You wanna call them and get them to contact the brothers and tell them your free to remarry.
If you where really sneaking you could pay an escort to seduce your ex.. but that would be expensive.
