If you've had any group of people villainized to you a good deal of your life, you're going to be afraid of them.
I used to be afraid of anyone "worldly" of course, because you're taught to be. But, I'm not anymore.
I always found men and women equally attractive, but I never acted on the attraction to females bit. I was always scared to, but I had a terrible crush on my female JW roommate...I was really horrified by it at the time. *sigh*
I'm happily married (to a guy) and have been for 21 years, and yes, my husband knows that I also find women sexually attractive. I think it kind of makes him happy, too! LOL
Although I am faithful to him, because UM, MARRIED and I like men equally well. I don't like cheating, either. Dishonesty is not good for relationships.