Mango,
Thank you for your kind words. I like being your pal too and I like mangos. I also like papayas but a name like bitter papaya sound's stupid.
Take care little sister.
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Moe,
Mind candy? This because of my age isn't it. I remember when I use to be arm candy. Lately I feel more like an arm pit.
I must warn you that my only objective in copying and pasting these thoughts that I have stolen from the official watchtower web site are purely to try and pick up chicks.
Big hug ya crazy woman!
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JoleBear,
I agree with you for the most. I understand what you are saying but I have a thing to add. This is only my opinion so take it as you please but when someone repeatedly wrongs you, you have one thing that will stop it. That is to let them know where you stand as honestly and direct as you can and walk away if it continues. In the many years of problems between my ex-wife and I, I ended them with one thought. I told her that she had won and she was has proven to me that she was tougher than I was. Then I asked her what she had gained by trying to prove that toughness. What she had lost was me as a friend. Her pride that was establish way before I met her is a major force in her life. As a young JW boy I didn't see her pride or stubbornness, all I could see was she was beautiful, she was in the same religion and she had a great butt.
What she had gained was the feeling that she had won a battle. The battle was with herself and with her past, not with me. She still hasn't been able to grasp what I meant. Some people never get it, and most battles are never won. In the battle between her and I, I feel there was never a winner only losers. Unfortunately for my sons, they are the ones who were hurt the most and they are the ones I care most about in the matter. I am spending my time now trying to make it up to them.
I wish things were different but you can try to change a persons mind but unless you have the ability to change their heart you can only accomplish so much. My ex-wife gave me the greatest gift any person has ever given me, my sons. That is how I need to continue to see her and I am not always able to feel that way. Unfortunately she does not share that feeling. Doing your best is all you can do. The rest of it is many times out of your hands. That's life.
Take care dude, I enjoy your posts and you crack me up all the time. Your one hell of a guy.
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Lilacs,
Thanks for your thought. I think I am now but I wasn't always that way. I had a lot to learn and I made a lot of mistakes, much more than most.
My kids keep me on my toes and the youngest one just flat out makes me feel old. He says that's his job, who am I to argue.
I'll bet your a great mom.
Thanks.
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Ballistic,
I hate to agree with you but I think your right. We are a little to sue happy. Fortunately I live in Oregon and it tends to be a little more forgiving than some states. I have had business associates come into town and can't believe that people wave thank you back to you when you let them into traffic in front of you. Oregon is known for it's kind hearted people. It is also known for growing the best pot in the country. I have always wondered if there was a connection.
Thanks.
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Andi,
I was brought up in a family with nine kids (six sisters, one bathroom). I think the one and only real benefit I gain from that experience growing up is I have one hell of a great bladder. I guess I also developed a pretty good sense of understanding. I lost that sense for many years. I am working very hard to get it back. If we can ever get over the horrors of our child hood we can finally grow up. Of course by that time, you have tubes going in our mouth and coming out our butts, but we can all look back and say it was one hell of a ride. In my next life I want to come back as a rabbit.
Thanks for your thoughts.
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Mulan,
My mom had a huge heart and was a very bright lady. If it wasn't for the damn religion she could have been a great teacher. I am happy to have inherited her heart. The only thing I can't shake in the way of hatred for that religion is the fact that they kidnapped my mom from me. I know it is very hard on her but she is so brainwashed she can't see past it. I think she always knew I would end up leaving the religion because she continually asked me not to. She told me right before I left the religion that mothers where not supposed to choose one of their kids as their favorite but that I was hers. I caught shit from my brothers and sisters most of my life for this and still do from my one sister who is out. What they don't realize is she also told me that not only did she love me the most but I also hurt her the most by leaving. That is a hard thing to deal with. Sometimes what is perceived to be a very good thing has it's equal balancing weight that makes it also a bad thing.
That religion has such a warped sense of what love really is it's amazing that any of us turned out half way normal.
Take care woman.
Dave
