How many Witness families do you know that still shun their children?

RULES & REGULATIONS

My congregation had many teens that were disfellowshipped. None of them have been back to the meetings. They either got married or moved out of their parents home.

It saddens me that I haven't seen any of them at any family functions. Just because they decided that they will never be a member of the WTS doesn't give the parents or family the right to shun them the rest of their lives. (My cousin hasn't been invited to any of our family functions in over 10 years)

Shame on you parents and family to treat your children this way! (That's one rule I never agreed with.)

WTS........When is the right time to stop shunning them?

troubled mind

This past weekend I had a family reunion picnic . My oldest and his wife have not been home for over two yrs. her JW mother would not attend because my oldest brother would be there ...He was dA'd 35 yrs. ago ....and she doesn't even personally know him ! My JW brother and his wife said they were coming and then with no explaination never bothered to show up .

Scully

Where JWs are involved regarding "family" gatherings, my JW relatives would apparently rather spend time with never-gonna-be-JW relatives whom they know to smoke, drink to excess, have extra marital affairs, children conceived out of wedlock, use profanity, etc. etc., than someone like me who made an informed decision that I could no longer attend meetings or preach door-to-door based on the way the WTS treats women, people suffering from clinical depression and victims of sexual abuse, for going beyond what is written concerning blood, holidays, and for not minding their own damn business about my private life and opinions and those of other people.

Evidently my standards are too high for them.

jamiebowers

Mine has shunned me for almost 21 years.

Peaches1978

I have been shunned since I was 16 and now im 31. my mom brother sister and uncle and his wife 2 daughters don't speak to me. it's doesnt bother me i have learned to not to care about them. when my non jw family have a getto gether they go and i'm there and i dont care if they leave or not. my non jw's family say it makes no sense.

Dogpatch

I don't think it's always an attempt to punish when they shun, but a potent cocktail of FEAR (based on the knowledge that YOU konw something they really DON'T want to know, or else it will bring on the dreaded cognitive dissonance that we so quickly learned to overcome in the beginning, and we sure don't want ot go back through that agonizing doubt about it being the "TRUTH" or not again! Nosirreee Bob!).

So it is actually a potential threat to their sense of being in control around others (maintaining face both internally and externally), which is a byproduct of the group ego. Witnesses are USED to being on top in their minds - they alone have the truth, and almost always talk down to or think lower of "worldly people." The ONLY way an active Witness can save face in the battle to stay on top (around DA'd relatives), when left with no weapons to stave off the insecurity that comes with doubt, is to mock or humiliate them. What does the monkey in the wild use as his last weapon of resort? He reaches behind, grabs a lump of his own feces and throws it all over his opponent.

Nowman

I have not seen my dad since 1992. I did not see my mom from 1992-2000, she was DFd in 2000. I was their only child.

It is sad...you get over it to a certain extent...its bearable...its just mind boggling to understand how could a parent do that to their child...I have 3 of my own...I could never even think of doing that to them...

As for mom, we have to deal with the after effects, she missed out on 8 years of my life...hers too...she is a different person than what I remember...that is difficult to take...I posted about it the other day on another thread...

Nikki

chickpea

in this small town of less than 2K,
in which there are 7 JW families
(that i know of) at least 2 are
actively shunning a child....

funny thing about one of them...
between the couple, each the
second spouse of the other,
there are 6 kids.... only one
was baptized (hence shunned)
and NONE of the adult kids have
anything to do with them...
speaks volumes imho

jam

the insanity of shunning, how many people have you known went back after 15-20yers..Take a hint it is not working.

Years ago when I came in in early 70,s I knew of very few people who was shun. Today almost every family have

someone in their family who have been df... My aunt ask me a few years back,( for me I have been shun since 1987 ) so

when will the shunning stop.? Only when you go back to the borg.. She said if you went back to a insane group like that

she would shun me.. In my area very few are shun by their parent, their are too many out...Maybe because I live in L.A.

Gregor

If any of you out there are being shunned by close family right now, you have my sympathy. The Watchtower Corp. has made this a policy for about sixty years for a REASON. It works! The fact that it brings out the very worst in human beings and causes heartbreaking suffering is not important. It protects them from scrutiny by their members and forces other members into making a life changing commitment to the cult, like the blood issue. This is a stronger bond than baptism.

I have bad news for any who hold out hope of a restoration of a loving bond with a mother, father, son, daughter...etc. The only way that would ever be possible is if the JW loved ones have their eyes opened and get out of the cult. If you somehow work your way back in, good luck. You will never have the family you remember.

How many Witness families do you know that still shun their children?

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