Hi there SpaceGhost and welcome to our wild and whacky world
To answer your question, I might first ask you if you are taking any type of antidepressants or other meds that might effect your sex drive? It is quite common to experience low libido as a side effect from taking these meds and by changing your prescription you can see a remarkable difference.
Most things you see advertised for increasing libido are hype. I've experimented a lot with things that increase the libido (mine is way too high but of course this is always important scientific research hahaha) and there are true aphrodesiacs that will make you so horny that you might just attack the nearest man that comes by. Problem is, most of these are illegal in our society because the powers that be feel you and I are not responsible enough to have such toys.
Instead of looking then for chemicals that boost your sex drive I suggest something a bit different. I don't know beans about the ability of your boyfriend to please a woman during sex, but quite frankly most men don't have a clue. To them it is wham, bam, thank you dude and off they go to the fridge for a beer or whatever. I think sex should be long and intense and very frequent with new lovers. Men are capable of being multiple orgasmic just like women are. Men are also capable of giving women several different types of orgasms (breast, vaginal, g-spot) and making these long and intense but sad to say we don't want women to know that is our responsibility!
I suggest then that you both look into ways of making sex much more pleasing and intense and satisfying. Get some good books on Tantric Sex or ways for a man to please a woman and practice using them. Both of you should soon find your libido sky high, and you will be posting next time on how to lower it!
Kind Regards,
Skipper
