by reedoll 18 Replies latest jw friends
Sounds like the ball is in your court and you can move it in any direction you wish ,
I think he's getting religious just to place a pure white sheet of purity over himself during this separation and possible divorce.
What he's doing is using some JWS rules to support his own personal agenda, don't give in and play his game .
Don't worry about what he wants. Do what you need to do. That isn't selfish, and you shouldn't feel guilty about it.
All the WT rules makes me laugh, it's so pathetic. I advise like the rest don't play their games.
Sorry to hear about your separation/pending divorce. Been thru two myself.
Since he's only studying I suggest you leave JWs out of the equasion. If JWs should be brought up in court, he's only studying.
If he has moved someone in already, (this will hurt and I feel this is where your real problem is) move on. At this particular time of your life, your best friend will be a lawyer. Get a female lawyer and many offer free counseltation for the first hour. Ask questions about child support, alimony and insurance's. In my state life and health insurance end on the final date of divorce but can be extended by an order of the court. Meaning hubby will have to pick up new policies with out of pocket payments.
If you and your lawyer play your cards right, hubby might have to pay for your lawyer too.
BTW, the ex doesn't have to wait for you. He might be filing an application for divorce tomorrow. Consult a lawyer for the best answers to your questions.
Your lawyer should ask that insurance coverage continue through your hubby's insurance since you are ill.
Get a lawyer and divorce the twit. Get some legal advice on keeping the insurance as part of the divorce settlement, at least until your own insurance comes through.
this is messed up....and welcome my unfortunate reedoll......and he sure as hell seems messed up.......now dont you get messed up more.......geeze most guys can fool around without having to join a cult and ask their wives to comply in some odd way.........take your time and make him pay, pay, pay............oomps
Here is my situation:
I'm a male JW and beeing married to a sister JW for over 10 years. But I have been irregular for many, many months.
* When we married, it was a big mistake. We don't get along and we fight all the time. We have 1 child.
* I want a divorce but do not want to get d'fd. I was d'fd 20 years ago and don't want to go through that again and hurt my parents, etc.
* If I commit Porneia, ie commit oral sex with a female, would this constitute grounds for my wife to divorce me?
* Are there any "loop-holes" that I can exploit?
PLEASE HELP!!!
Welcome Unhappily Married
Assuming that you want to remain irregular, or better yet, inactive:
You can divorce without getting DFd...except neither of you will be free to remarry in the eyes of the congregation.
DO NOT go get laid outside the marriage just to force her into divorcing you. That will end up in DFing and alimony/child support. I've known a couple of people who went this route and it backfired. Not worth it.
Just get seperated, fade from the religion and then when you're off the radar and most have forgotten you, file for divorce. Then when your legally free, go about your life on your terms. If you should strike up another relationship before the divorce is final, be very, very discreet. Better yet, keep your pants zipped until it all plays out.
