Do mixed marriages work? What about kids? (page 2)

Butterflyleia85

My mom is a JW and my stepdad non witness- it was hard

It will confuse the kid because being a JW is a serious matter, standards, and commitment. I would advise to learn about it so that you and your bf can compromise on deciding what is best for the child and respect your bf beleifs, vica versa.

I am going to be going through the same thing. My fiance and I are living together and he isn't in the religion but tecnicly neither am I. I'm DF but thinking bout going back in... It will be hard. We are wanting to have kids in the future but I wonder too how it will work. All I know is to make sure you remember who you fell in love with and let that be your strangth! I also remind myself of what my mom went through and hope that maybe before my fiance and i have kids we can work something out!

knows better

im sorry to tell you this.. if your future husband wants to go back to the JW's its a no win for you. they will tell you anything you want to hear about children making thier own decision, but its a lie. you will ALWAYS be second to the cult. im sorry for you, but i would cut my losses and get out. i have over 20 years of it. and i wish i never got involved. honestly.. its not fair.. again leave as fast a possible.

greenie

KnowsBetter - are you or were you a JW or are you a nonJW like me?

BurnTheShips

I don't think they work very well. JWism is too totalitarian and intolerant.

knows better

i could write a book about my life with the witnesses. i am not and will never be one. i think these fourms are visited by active witnesses, so i won't reveal details. you don't know me from adam, but cut your losses please.. you WILL regret it so much if you don't.. i am sorry for you, i really am. but i won't work.. it just won't.. thats the real truth.. you can listen or not, its bigger than any of us.. leave.. just leave..

it may hurt now, but its nothing compared to what your getting into..

PSacramento

Butterflyleia,

If you are DF'd, why are you thinking of going back? the issues that got you Df'd have been "cleared up" ?

greenie

Thanks KnowsBetter - I don't want to jeapordize your anonymity. I guess I should be careful for us too.

dinah

greenie, do you want your child to grow up thinking God will kill his Mom for not being a Witness? That's exactly what the kid will be taught at their meetings.

greenie

I appreciate that Dinah, but at this point my child is going to hear that to some extent no matter what.

Butterflyleia85

For my situation I would ask if he is ok with Holidays meeting half way not taking them so seriously but as away to celebrate the family time together and have special moments without looking at it as a holiday. Just a suggestion.

And as far as going to meetings seriously it not all that scary it's not a cult, all JW do personally is try to help... you can't deny they try to help right?? I mean yeah alot of the JW that are talked about on here got so far into it that they put theirselves in that situation with out knowing the consiquenses of there own strenght!! for me I got DF because I commited to the religion promising I wouldn't have sex outside of marriage then bam!! I lied to God and so here I am! It sucks but I learn to never commit to something I couldn't keep!!

Thank God also my mom wasnt so strict in a sence that I felt I was trapped in the religion as I grow up so as ur kids grow up just make sure you know that Jehovah Witness don't control your kids you do with your love and care!! :)

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