Mom puts heat on my daughter

by purplesofa 17 Replies latest jw friends

  • purplesofa
    purplesofa

    So my Mom came down for a visit a few weekends ago, since I knew nothing about it till she got in town, I opted out on seeing her her.

    She did not leave a very good lasting impression on my daughter and my grand daughter would not have anything to do with her (babies have such great intuition)

    My Mom has not been preaching much to my daughter, but left her quite a library when she left town.

    Yesterday she calls my daughter and grills her about why I don't go to meetings anymore, She is upset that I influenced her to get in the truth(which is not really true) and then give her a book to read (COC) saying bad things about the organization.

    My daughter told my Mom there were allot of coverups in the congo and older men doing inappropriate things with younger girls(I have not told many things on this board about my congo) My Mom said that I did not love Jehovah enough to let that bother me enough to keep me from going to the meetings. My daughter said she thought it was a good time for her MOM (me) to quit going to meetings.

    They then talked about whether I was really ever a JW. And my daughter said, I don't know how you can say that, We were at all the meetings, out in service, at all the conventions, and never hung around as you say it "worldly" people.

    My daughter told my mom that she studied and went out in service, then my Mom argues with her and says she could not have gone out in service as she was never baptised. My daughter said she did and my Mom was very nice and answered all the peoples questions at the door and was encouraing and we went on RV's. I think this floored my Mom. Not only because my daughter went in service but that she sang my praises when my Mom was hellbent on making me look bad to her.

    My Mom told my daughter was ignorant as to who Jehovah is. This did not set well with my daughter.

    My daughter told my Mom she did love Jehovah, that when she prays, she prays to Jehovah, through Jesus Christ and just because she won't go to meetings does not mean she does not know who Jehovah is, well my mother could not grasp this at all. It is not going by the rules.

    Again, they got on the subject of bad things happening in the congo and my Mom said not all congos were like that and while my daughter was telling her about it my mom told her to SHUSH, which was the icing on the cake for my daughter. She said if she really believed in what she was saying my mom would not tell her to shut up, but be kind and polite as you would preach to people at the door!!!

    I told my daughter she handled herself very well and I was proud of her for saying what she believes in.

    My daughter does not think my Mom is happy being a witness.

    I don't know how they got on the subject of what my maiden name is, but they did. My mother told Jessica that the name I told her was not my maiden name and she did not know where I got that from. My daughter said, it's on her birth certificate and mine.

    I got concerned after this, I think my Mom is losing it.

    Anyway,

    just wanted to share this.

    purps

    Hope all is good with everyone, this new job is kicking my butt!!!

  • OUTLAW
    OUTLAW

    Hey Purps..

    Your mom won`t be happy untill she causes some kind of division in your family..

    Mine was the same way..

    Your daughter did well..She loves her mom..Cool..

    Check your PM`s..

    ....................

  • AdaMakawee
    AdaMakawee

    Your daughter has a good head on her shoulders, you should be proud. She was able to hold her own very well against what sounds like a very manipulative person. I don't know how old your mom is, but she may well be losing some memory, we tend to do that as we age.

    Our dub parents, gotta love em, they're absolutely nuts, aren't they? Take my mom, for instance, I guess she thinks that she can't get anywhere with me so she can just go around me to my son. Well she sent him a card that said, 'I'm sorry your mom won't allow you to have any contact with us, we love you and want you to learn about jehovah." hmmm well they are the ones that have DF'd me (never DA or DF officially just dropped out of sight). My son won't have anything to do with them anyway. He told me that until they drop the pretence and make it up to me for all the things they put me through he won't have anything to do with them.

  • White Dove
    White Dove

    Woo Hoo! Let's hear it for the kiddies! Very proud.

  • OnTheWayOut
    OnTheWayOut

    Sorry to hear your troubles. Strength to ya. Good daughter.

  • Heaven
    Heaven

    My daughter does not think my Mom is happy being a witness.

    I think THIS is the reason why JWs try to recruit people. Misery loves company.

  • no more kool aid
    no more kool aid

    Sounds like the exact same conversations I've had with my mom. Except when I say anything about the corrupt way the congregation operates, she says "Oh they are all that way, they are not perfect". We should get them together so they can get their story straight. I think our kids have a better nose for BS than we ever did, sounds like your daughter can hold her own.

  • quietlyleaving
    quietlyleaving
    I think this floored my Mom. Not only because my daughter went in service but that she sang my praises when my Mom was hellbent on making me look bad to her.

    good for your daughter. Jehovahs witnesses don't allow people any redeeming qualities - you have to be painted as all bad and given the role of scapegoat to make their story work.

  • lisavegas420
    lisavegas420

    I'm intrigued over the maiden name thing. Wonder what that is all about? Maybe your mom has a secret she hasn't told.

    lisa

  • HintOfLime
    HintOfLime

    I've been around some very manipulative people in my life. My ex-mother-in-law (a devout JW) frequently and publically bragged of being a 'master manipulator'. I have little tolerance for manipulative people, I recognize them immediately and make every effort call them out on their weasely ways.

    It sounds to me like you daughter has developed a fine mind for recognizing and deflecting the crafty works of manipulators. I'd be sure to keep her well fueled, not just against JW's, but against all preditors who seek out and manipulate vulnerable minds.

    - Lime

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