Thank you everyone for your responses and input. It's a frustrating situation. Most of you said the same thing my husband said-you are grown, have who you want at our house.
Blondie-I hate to have to play the JW game but at this point, can't get out of it. It has to be done in my own time and believe me, that time is fast approaching-not in the world is ending any second now time frame but close.
I like OTWO suggestions of telling my mom I don't plan on going back. That might be a step in the right direction to a peaceable(sp) solution. I know if I tell her that, she will think it is because of my Apostate Aunt and that is so not the case.
Thanks again. I'll let you know how it goes.