Heartbreaker,
I know that some of what you are dealing with is painful - but from your words - you, and your husband (and your kiddo) both sound like strong individuals.
"So, think they have enough on us to DF us with never meeting with us again?"
Them fellas don't need much - if anything at all. But like others have said - don't fret none about it. Continue having your cookouts and enjoying life.
Iffn you're looking for a place to move to - consider Texas. We have all sorts of weather down here... San Antonio may be a bit too far south (and too hot) - Austin may be more to your liking. Plus - we have the Gulf Coast nearby - so you can go to the ocean for weekends - iffn ya want to.
If your mom wants to know where you moved to - just say 'Texas'. It's a big state. Actually, it's as big as a country.
Bottom line - make new friends and associates - that are non-jw.
Regards,
Jim TX