by compound complex 17 Replies latest jw friends
Hi, Coco.
I ran on empty until 2005 when I crashed completely.
I tried to be all things to all people, and ended up being nothing to anybody - myself included.
I've since learned how to say an emphatic NO!
That one thing has helped considerably in my refueling efforts.
Hope this makes sense.
Sylvia
Good morning Coco!..
Living in the Wilderness teache`s you how to Survive..
There have been times when I have been injured,wore out and tired..
Low on fuel,food,water and snowed in..
Give up in the Wilderness and your Dead..
Case closed..
Even when there`s no light at the end of the tunnel..
You have to keep on fighting..
It`s worth it..
You stay alive and things do get better..
.................... ...OUTLAW
Thanks, dear Syl and OUTLAW!
What great thoughts ... they make perfect sense! Food for thought as I walk/run for the bus. New for me - the wilderness of no car!
Talk more later!
Best regards,
CoCo
I'm running on fumes and feel like I'm still not doing enough, nagging parental units don't help either.
I feel that my tank is being filled up since making the decision to leave.
Dear Mrs. Jones and cantleave,
Interesting ... at different ends of the spectrum. I guess we're alike in so many ways, yet our circumstances differ widely.
Thanks for participating.
CoCo
All the time. I think for me it comes for being a JW. I could never say no to anything that was asked of me and I always felt like I was letting everyone down. I always felt guilty and it has carried over to all of my life. I hope to be able to stop the madness sometime soon. LITS
Dear LITS:
You're correct about where the madness originates. That can be said of other high control groups, too, I would think. For me it has gotten better over time. Saying NO and not feeling guilty. This is what I can do, this is what I will NOT do.
In many circumstances I had been an unwitting enabler, being told by the dysfunctional manipulator[s] what I was obligated to do, either for them personally or on behalf of others. It took me a long time to get past the compulsion to use every possible moment assisting at-risk householders onto "the ark of salvation." Or allowing individual control-freaks to coerce me into doing their bidding.
It's so different now. I hope that it will be likewise for you.
Love,
CoCo
