Questions drove me to what one brother so colorfully called "the teats of Babylon." I read numerous Bible commentaries. When Aid to Bible Understanding was prepared a significant amount of material was derived from Lange's Commentary. You can see this in the sparse notes found in Insight. The Insight book does not specifically identify the commentaries as part of Lange's larger work, but that's where they're found. They also used Barnes' Notes on the New Testament. I read those. I read Robertson's Word Pictures, Vincent's Word Studies, Clarke’s Commentary and other works.
The results were mixed. Even though these commentaries are Trinitarian in outlook, they said enough about the key texts that I remained a non-Trinitarian. Other basic doctrines remain in place too. What affected me the most was the realization that Watchtower "scholarship" is very shallow. What is good is borrowed from others; what is bad is often their own. This wasn't a new thought, but my reading reinforced it. I was prodded toward that conclusion by the Watchtower itself. I remember sitting through a Watchtower study back in the 1950's sometime. It was about the Cities of Refuge, and it was interesting. There was, however, one paragraph in which the writer (It was in Franz's style) found prophetic fulfillments for things found only in Josephus. Even if one accepts the Watchtower's hyper-typical approach to Old Testament events, I could not find any justification for that. Watchtower writers have cooled that approach in the last few years. I hope they continue to do so.
In 1961 (as I recall) The Watchtower ran a middling-sized article on the culture and laws of the Old Testament era, focusing on the Patriarchal Age. It was footnoted. Fine. I know how to use and read footnotes! And I was interested. So, off I toddle to the public library and the interlibrary loan desk. I sent for one of the books. It turns out that all the footnotes were derived from the one book. They simply copied out, without verifying anything, the work of this one author and presented it as their own. If I found one of my students doing that, I'd fail them. This is one step away from plagiarism. It is unethical. It is fake research.
I was irritated but shrugged these things off. I was able to shrug it off because I trusted those who were responsible for The Watchtower. I liked Knorr, even if he was less than endearing personally. I found Fred Franz to be eternally ODD and vain, but likeable, I trusted him in ways that were unwise. He lost my affection and trust in the approach to 1975. He should have resigned from the Governing Body or he should have been relegated to menial tasks and the brotherhood should have been made aware of it.
My reading took me to other areas where Watchtower scholarship appeared questionable. The New World Translation had pleased me when it was first released. (Yes, I'm old enough to remember and was at the convention in New York.) The English grammar is odd, but I accepted the explanation that the intent was to give us the flavor of the Greek text. It's an incredibly poor effort. It's a school boy effort. The comment made by Goodspeed that grammar matters is spot on. The NW is full of reflexive verbs, possessives turned into clauses and the like. If you wish to see a translation that succeeds in doing what Franz failed to do, examine Kenneth Wuest's New Testament.
I already knew that students can argue about trivialities. Witnesses are no less affected. Are any of you old enough to remember the arguments and illustrations in The Watchtower back in the 1950's over whether snakes had legs before Eve sinned? Oh, My Loving Lord! It gave me an opportunity to tweak some gullible noses back then. (That's a fun memory)
If you're going to reject Watchtowerism, do it with your eyes and mind open. Do your homework. Much of what is written on boards like this one is good and helpful, but more is not. Become a student. Develop research skills. If you have doubts about a Watchtower teaching, hit the books, and I do not mean theirs. Get your butt off to the library. See what the standard commentaries say. Ask (develop the skill to ask non-threatening questions) your friends and elders to explain. This is a pass/fail test for them and you. If they can't clearly explain the doctrine you question, write to the little boys in Brooklyn. Give them a chance. Sometimes you'll be pleasantly surprised. Sometimes you'll see them wiggle in their chair.
If those producing The Watchtower fail as Bible scholars, you should not. It's your responsibility to KNOW and not just emote.
Excuse the old-guy rant. My point is that you need to have well founded objections. If your husband can’t answer them, so much the better. Let him take your questions off to the elders, or better yet, let him do his own research.
I spent years going to other elders and saying something like, “How would you answer this question?” or “If you were to explain this point, how would you do it?” Sometimes I received insightful answers. Sometimes I got blank stares. From “The Society” I got, stop writing to us with technical questions. You should wait on Jehovah. My reply was that my questions were Biblical, not technical. My unwritten reply was “wait on Jehovah? Why? It’s not he that does not know the answer, it’s you. You mean don’t bug us with questions we cannot comfortably answer.”