A freshly minted Assembly Hall, as seen through the eyes of a free man

by sd-7 18 Replies latest jw friends

  • sd-7
    sd-7

    The program was Day 2 of the circuit assembly, but we'd been planning to catch the special assembly day (commonly referred to as SAD even by me before I woke up). I always felt sad after the program every time. Never doing enough, you know what I mean? The new assembly hall is gargantuan. Plenty of old assembly artifacts. Reminded me of Prince Malagant's prison in the movie First Knight. "It's called an ubliette. That's French for 'a place of forgetting.' No bars, no doors, no locks--just walls of air." But it was attractive. For $8,000,000, it ought to be.

    They had the badges from old conventions, newspaper articles--even from the infamous 1966 convention where the wacky 1975 book was released. My associate put in a donation. I can't believe anyone's hard-earned money will be given to these crooks. We didn't stay for the program. It didn't sound like we were missing much--the same 'single people have more opportunities', cookie-cutter interviews with two single pioneers (one of whom broke off her engagement and pioneered, yet the emotional impact of that was completely ignored; I take it she goes home and has a bit of wine for the frequent cases of heartsickness), etc., etc. Even so, I could already feel the guilt emanating from the platform. It's powerful. Could be sucked back in easily.

    As we neared the assembly hall, there was a brother standing outside, watching as our child made the last few steps out of the rain. He was intrigued, mentioned how long a walk it must have been for a baby, seemed friendly. But as we parted ways, there was something about the robotic tone of his voice as he said, "Enjoy the assembly." It sounded a lot like a command rather than the equivalent of the usher at the movie theater who says "enjoy the show." There was something mildly unsettling about it. Almost, well, a "heil Hitler" kind of sound. I think for the first time, I felt genuinely creeped out by the place. The lack of doors in the auditorium and bathrooms must have been an intentional part of the design. Perhaps it is a reflection of the Party mindset: a not-so-subtle way of saying WE ARE WATCHING YOU. THERE IS NO PLACE TO HIDE.

    Anyway, that's comforting. We watch each other, which means are backs are turned on the leadership. A perfect circle. Power at the top. Control of all, with the assistance of the insects who are more than happy to police each other. There is nothing but those walls of air. The inmates love the wardens. Is it a prison, then, or an asylum? For those who know the wardens well enough, it is both.

    Scientific American magazine had an article awhile ago about the fact that cheaters have no problem turning in other cheaters. This is true in nature as well. It's perfect--after all, if everyone cheats, no one benefits. So the cheaters must rat out other cheaters in order for them to prosper. If a few powerful ones do all the cheating, they win. Hence the disfellowshipping arrangement, no?

    Well...the other neat thing about the assembly hall was the feeling that like, 15 Brother Hounders were stalking the lobby area and getting uncomfortable seeing me standing there not going into the auditorium. But, limited by the laws of the land and the law of Christ, hurting me and throwing me into the auditorium was not authorized. They could only take action against me to a certain extent. Being limited by the laws of the land. Of course. So I may have gotten funny looks, but nothing more. Having the kid there engendered some sympathy.

    Soon, I will enter the first and last phase of my suicide mission, marrying into a religion the same year I discovered it is a cult that uses mind control on its members. I am marrying a true believer who suffers from serious cognitive dissonance issues. But having been dealt a hard hand with her mother, perhaps the Mother Organization became a safe haven for her. They could've said Brother Organization, but perhaps they were too aware of the 1984 implications. Besides, Mother > Son, right?

    Well, I know that the price I pay will be extraordinarily high. But I volunteered. I know what I'm getting into. I've been inside all my life, after all. I know what to expect. Only part of this I've never experienced is (1) being an elder/MS and (2) being in a JC. I'd like to record the latter, should it ever happen to me, just because they're so scared of that. Princes who rule for justice itself ought not be afraid to be accountable to their subjects. Cowards.

    Anyway, there's my tale. Too long, but fire away.

    SD-7

  • Meeting Junkie No More
    Meeting Junkie No More

    Absolutely love your writing...more, more!

  • Girlie
    Girlie

    Hey Sd-7.

    Edited: Nice summation of the assembly. Once you take off the blinders and listen to the talks with an opened mindset, you find yourself wondering how you fell for such nonsense.

  • undercover
    undercover
    15 Brother Hounders were stalking the lobby area and getting uncomfortable seeing me standing there not going into the auditorium.

    I remember those days well. Trying to hang out in the lobby without being noticed or labeled as a loiterer by the attendants and have them come over and stand in front of you with their little "Please be seated" sign.

    Soon, I will enter the first and last phase of my suicide mission, marrying into a religion the same year I discovered it is a cult that uses mind control on its members. I am marrying a true believer who suffers from serious cognitive dissonance issues.

    So, you're marrying an active JW? And you're pretending to be active? I know we've got our own battles when it comes to fading, but I can't help but point out that your kinda going in the wrong direction. Getting married and then trying to fade is only going to create a very messy marriage. It's bad enough when us long time married folks try to tell our spouses that we're done with the religion. When you try to tell your wife and you spill the beans that you were mentally out even before you were married, it's going to be the death knell for your marriage. Think very hard about saying "I do" when you really don't. There's more to marriage than just attraction and love. There has to be a common goal in mind. You don't have that.

    Forgive me if I stuck my nose in too far there, but I'd hate to see you trapped in a situation that is only going to get worse when you could avoid it altogether.

  • Confuzzled
    Confuzzled

    I see myself in your story, as well as a lot of others who have shared their experiences with me about being the lover of a JW. I have this honest belief that the ppl who fill those pews are honest, loving souls who really thing they are doing the work of the Lord, and then ppl exploit their guilt and desire to good by God, and others.

  • sd-7
    sd-7

    Girlie--check your PMs.

  • sd-7
    sd-7

    Undercover--what part of "suicide mission" did you not understand? I know that this is insanely dangerous. That's the point. After learning the reality of it all, I nearly lost my mind, made bad choices. Why make worse choices on top of that, right? True. The only reason I can come up with is because I just don't care anymore about right and wrong. I just...don't care about anything. They took her away from me years ago, and I found a second chance. Even at the price of my life, even, if necessary, at the price of my mind, I choose to get her back.

    A free man can choose to return to slavery for reasons that seem unjustifiable to others who have found their freedom. I can't say it's logical or sane. But the train is pulling out of the station now. I can't stop it. And even though it will run me down, I am not afraid. I've had everything else taken from me. I've nothing left but her now. One day, I may lose her, or be reprogrammed. That's the chance I'm willing to take. There's nothing left for me. If I gain her even for a moment, as I have done, I can die having fully lived. That's all any man can ask for in this life, on this God-forsaken planet.

    SD-7

  • undercover
    undercover

    sd...it is your decision of course, but life does not begin or end with being with someone else. You don't have to give up freedom just to have a chance of being with someone.

    How happy can one be, pretending to be something they're not? Even if you get the girl, keep the girl, you're living a lie.

    But I've had my say, and probably said too much. I wish you the best and hope it works out. Maybe you can open her eyes in time. That's what I hope will happen for you. Good luck on the suicide mission. I'll be pulling for ya. Make sure to keep us posted how it's going.

  • sd-7
    sd-7

    Not at all, undercover--I get what you're saying. I understand the nature of this choice. You're saying the same things I told myself. Living a lie is a horrible thing. But I thank you for your support.

    SD-7

  • AudeSapere
    AudeSapere

    Hi SD-7 - Nice post. Some I agree with but others ... not so much.

    The lack of doors in the auditorium and bathrooms must have been an intentional part of the design. Perhaps it is a reflection of the Party mindset: a not-so-subtle way of saying WE ARE WATCHING YOU. THERE IS NO PLACE TO HIDE.

    I really don't [want] to believe that this is about visibility. With all the weird diseases and focus on doors and handles, I'm grateful when there is a maze of partitions to a restroom so I don't have to take chances and risk getting my freshly scrubbed hands all germy when I touch the door to leave.

    As for getting married to a die-hard witness when you are on your way out, seems terribly unfair. Does your fiance know your true feelings about the org? If you haven't had a true, open and honest discussion with her, then you are perpetrating a fraud.

    Regarding the 'hounders' in the lobby... Did they know you? If not, they may possibly have been concerned about security. I was well-known in the circuit and often hung out in the lobby or walked around. Sitting was just too much strain on my back and when I sat I usually fell asleep!

    Just thoughts... But really, really concerned about the decision to marry a JW, especially if there is deception involved.

    -Aude.

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