He's here in 15 min...continued...

by Newborn 11 Replies latest jw friends

  • Newborn
    Newborn

    thanks creativhoney for your kind words from y-day

    We had a great time, (as at our first date). This is a good guy! We cooked dinner together, saw a movie and it was really cozy. However, he's not ready or rather scared of something serious...we talked about it and he's also really afraid of hurting me and he says he doesn't understand why he feels like this since he thinks I'm a great woman and he's not seeing somebody else! Well, he thinks it can be because he's burned after his last relationship which ended like 2y ago.

    So I'm not sure if this will lead anywhere...I don't want to spend time etc on him if he's not ready and doesn't know what he wants (been there done that already). So for now I'll leave him be and give him time alone to reflect on his feelings and what he wants. The guy is 32 for gods sake and he really don't like to be single anymore!?!?

    Why is it never simple???!!!
    Let's see if he misses me and wants to give it a try later on...however in the mean time I've other guys and friends to have fun with

    I feel stronger now though!

    Thx for your kind attention

    /Newborn

  • fokyc
    fokyc

    Thanks for the update, I thought this was IT!

    Keep trying

    What exactly is the something serious?

    fokyc

  • Newborn
    Newborn

    What exactly is the something serious?

    Mornin fokyc!

    I wonder the same thing, coz how can you know if you want a serious relationship or not this early on, you'd have to spend more time together (which I also told him)...beats me...he's probably confused...?

  • lisavegas420
    lisavegas420

    no matter where it goes...it's good practice.

    lisa

  • zagor
    zagor

    Could be he's been burned like you said, or it also could be he acted weak to make you feel easier about break up. But yeah, could be he needs some time too, sure. ;)

    Whatever it is its nice to hear however in the mean time I've other guys and friends to have fun with

    Whatever it is have fun, that's what life is for

    Cheers

  • Newborn
    Newborn

    Lisa, agree

    Zagor,

  • carpediem
    carpediem

    Glad your second date was nice. Couldnt you keep him as a friend and see what grows (no pun intended!!)

  • Newborn
    Newborn

    Couldnt you keep him as a friend and see what grows

    carpediem, I could...but I'm careful with my heart, since I'd easily get strong feelings for him and then it's hard to "just" be friends...

  • carpediem
    carpediem

    Yes I see what you mean. Unrequited love is horrible

  • Robdar
    Robdar

    It's only been 2 dates. The guy is just starting to get to know you. I think caution on his part is a good thing. If it were me, I'd question his maturity and intentions if he tried to rush into things.

    Keep playing it cool but do not write him off. If he's a good guy, surely he is a good guy to get to know better?

    Give it 3 weeks to see what happens. If it isn't going well in 3 weeks, you wont have too much of your heart or time invested.

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