Welcome to the forum!!!
So glad that you still have your family. When all is said and done, this is the most important thing.
It is such a incredible blow when you finally slow down from the frantic "theocratic pace" enough to think and begin to have that creeping feeling that all is not right within the WTS.
I cannot imagine being young, newly married, child on the way, and being told to find some way to continue pioneering by men who probably worked at jobs full time without pioneering.
My husband was an elder for twenty years. He also never said no. We were a family in that frantic pace.
We are celebrating Christmas this year, as we have for the past four. In fact, we have lights up outside. No, amazingly, we are not df'd. I do not have family who are witnesses, and could care less if they don't like the beautiful lights.
My daughter is in college, and doing great. I am glad to hear that your wife is also in school. And so, now, what about you? You can go to school on-line these days. Give it a thought.