Have some went back & those who do, what's it like?? (page 2)

DubR

Thank you WTWizard, me choosing not to regularly make meetings and go out preaching and being told by an elder that I better do it would send a flying punch his way (man I hate elders and their fake divine authority). You stated about 2 million of the 7.3 million stay in for family and friends, I think its more like 50% or more stay in for family and friends. I was very popular in and outside my circuit growing up and about 90% of younger JWs I associated with or knew were "wilding out" and will never tell the elders or leave because they woud loose their family. I think there are the ole (I do whatever the GB tells me to) JWs and now there are the new (I do what I want) JWs this generation. There are more of the later nowadays I believe.

OUTLAW

It`s not something I would do..

But..

It`s not unheard of,to go back for family..

A respected member of this board did just that..

.................. ...OUTLAW

beksbks

I think it's completely understandable. If I were in that position, I might consider it myself. If you have the ability to move out of the area, that is so very helpful. I moved, not on purpose, it's just the way it unfolded. People didn't even know in my old cong when I came back to visit, that I was out!

I feel for you DubR, they put us in such an unnatural position.

pat1060

I did fade away for about 12 years and about 2 years ago I went back.Because I had been out so long I had to be studied with and taken out in service all over again.I really hated it.I knew more then the sisters that would study with me.Now I'm sorry and my eyes are open and I'm fading again.This time I have learned many things and continue to learn.But like you I have family in and I don't want to hurt them,so I'm being very careful.I just turn in token time and miss allot of meetings.I don't blame you for what you are wanting to do because of your mom.It can be done.Good luck to you....

xmkx

I think were I in the position of completely being cut off from my family and going back, I might go back too. But after being reinstated it would pretty much be on my own terms. Like... I wouldn't go out door to door, I might (big might) share some Biblical knowledge with people but not with the purpose of indoctrinating them the JW way and only if I see they could use it at that particular time, fake time reports, only the middle of the week meetings and none of the book studies or Sunday meetings, and OF COURSE I'm going to keep up my normal "worldly" habits like Facebook, the internet in general, books, movies, music, holidays, donating blood, and body art. The thing that holds me back from doing it now is that I still have healthy contact with my family and the rewards of not having them disappointed in me are very minimal in comparison to the amount of effort that would go in to hiding all that stuff from the elders. Not to mention the reason I left in the first place was so that I could just be myself and I am very happy being that way and having people accept and love me based on who I really am rather than who they think I am.

Open mind

Gumby, a former poster, went back because his JW family was his whole world. He was close to suicidal from what I've read. He doesn't believe the WT line at all.

Stillajwexelder, doesn't post a lot, but if you PM him he might be willing to share some insights with you. He's never been DFed, but he still attends and is in "good standing". His JW family will likely never awaken. He doesn't believe 99% of WT spew.

I could probably do it if my JW family was all I had. Hell, I faked it as an elder for almost 3 years.

om

DubR

OUTLAW, beksbks; pat1060 - thank you all for your kind words. I wasn't sure if people would attack me or feel sympathy for my situation on this board, so thank you for your understanding and kind remarks! Its very tough being in this position at 24yrs old, just having a parent die (growing up thinking he would walk into the paradise); having only a mother that would give her life for this bloodguilty religion is just mental anguish for me!! I hate that organization for all its done but I love and miss my mom and lil nephew. Thank you all...

DubR

xmkx - YES!! The life you explained is the exact type of life I would live if or when I decide to go back! My big sis who chose to marry a "worldly man" was recently reinstated (she still believes JW is the truth) but she also has a little of her own mind. She understand that if the org says, "a true Christian wouldn't get on facebook, myspace, participate in sports, go to college, watch rated R movies, watch porn (with her husband), go out field service whenever u can, make every meeting; listen to everything we tell you" she will do whatever she wants because she knows those silly man made rules arent in the bible. She has a facebook and myspace page, she lets my lil nephew participate in basketball at school and he will eventually be encouraged to go to college, they watch R rated movies,....porn...lol, she goes out field service like once every 3 months; makes a very little meetings and is perfectly fine with where she stands!! I still cant believe she didn't listen to me when I told her about the JWs history?!? Anyway, I want to be something like that minus the believing that religion is the truth lol.

Open mind - Thanks for giving me examples of former members on here that went back. I will look at all their posts which lead up to their decision to go back if I can. This will help me alot !!

WOW!! I am getting great feedback from you guys and gals!! Keep it up and I really appreciate it! Sometimes I wish all of us members on here could meet up and have a beer or two . Yall are soo cool!!!

DubR

jamiebowers

IMHO, evil triumphs when good men do nothing. I could never go back, because I don't want anyone to think that I support such a vile corporation. My mother has shunned me for 21 years, but if I went back, there's no chance she'll ever learn the truth about the "truth".

AK - Jeff

I couldn't go back. Ever.

But I have considered writing a fake 'request for reinstatement', complete with 'heartfelt repentance' over my sins asking the JC to determine a date for our meeting to discuss this. Then dropping a second letter in the box the following week with just two words 'Never Mind' in bold letters.

I just like to piss with the bastards.

Jeff

Have some went back & those who do, what's it like??

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